How To Prepare For a Successful Marriage





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Martin Zerrudo: Is the next step for you and your significant other marriage? Is it something you've already talked about planning for? Is that a topic you're currently avoiding? What should you know before popping the question and how can you make sure that you end up having a successful marriage? 



Let's have a Heart & Soul conversation.



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Martin: Hello, everyone, hope you're doing well and are safe at home. Today, our topic is focused on helping our listeners gain a better understanding on what to expect when getting married and what to do to make sure their marriage can be happy and successful. At the end of the day, we want to give you as much information and guidance before you commit to one of the most important decisions of your lives. And joining me today to help us with that is Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ. Brother Felmar is a husband and father of two and is also the minister on the brand new Happy Life podcast, a podcast where newlyweds can get some tips on having a successful marriage. Hi, Brother Felmar, how are you today?



Brother Felmar: Hello, Martin, and to the Heart & Soul team and to everyone who's tuning in. I'm doing well, Martin, thank you for asking. And I just like to say it's a great pleasure for me to be here on Heart & Soul.



Martin: Thank you so much, Brother Felmar. And thank you for taking the time to help us with such an important topic that is pivotal and is an important topic for many of our young adult listeners. So, when it comes to deciding when a couple in the Church Of Christ should marry, what are some of the questions that they should be asking themselves?



Brother Felmar: To answer that, let's first be reminded that a true spouse is from God. This is proven to us by the Bible in Proverbs 19: 14 we’ll quote from the New Revised Standard Version: 



Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.



[Proverbs 19:14 New Revised Standard Version] 



So based on this, one of the very important questions to ask oneself prior to getting married is, is this person that I am courting, or is courting me the answer to my prayers? Is this person the blessing to me from God? 



Another important question to ask oneself prior to getting married is, am I ready for the blessing like what we heard from the Holy Scriptures, house and wealth are inherited from parents, but house and wealth or other possessions are not just things you just receive? Right? You need to take care of them. There are responsibilities that need to be fulfilled. So, so much more when it comes to marriage. 



According to the Bible, in God's design of marriage, which is the true and right design, there are responsibilities for the husband, and there are responsibilities for the wife, and there are also shared responsibilities. That's why on the Happy Life podcast, we discuss things like making adjustments, expectations, communication as a married couple for members in the Church Of Christ who are at the courtship stage. Be sure to ask yourselves even before getting engaged. Are you ready for the blessing and the responsibilities that come with marriage? It's important to consider that you have feelings for each other. But it's also important to consider how compatible you are with one another, especially when it comes to working together and shoulderi...