HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA for Christian Women | Inner Peace, Trust God, Spiritual Healing, God’s Love, True Connection, Gene
Debra Shafer | Spiritual Healing Coach for Christian Women | Founder, Healing Religious Trauma Circle | Walking Women Home to a Safe, Loving God | Voice of Gentle Clarity, Healing, and Truth
19 episodes
2 days ago
Do you love God—but feel like you’re slowly drifting away from Him, and you don’t know why? Are you scared that questioning your church—or your faith—might mean losing everything you love? Do you constantly second-guess your emotions, your voice, even your own intuition—wondering if you’re the problem? Are you exhausted from trying to be good enough, faithful enough, spiritual enough… and still feeling like you fall short? Do you feel spiritually homeless—longing for a safe space where you can be honest, messy, and still welcomed with open arms?
If that all sounds a little too familiar, take a deep breath. You’ve found a place to land.
Healing Religious Trauma is a podcast designed to help you:
1. Rebuild your relationship with a safe, loving God.
2. Feel emotionally and spiritually safe enough to ask honest questions.
3. Hear God’s voice for yourself—without fear, shame, or outside filters.
4. Let go of guilt and reclaim your voice, your worth, and your inner peace.
5. Find a gentle, supportive space where spiritual transformation and healing are real and faith still matters.
Hi, I’m Debra.
A lifelong woman of faith who spent decades trying to earn God’s love by doing everything “right.” I was the helper, the volunteer, the spiritual overachiever. But underneath all the striving, I felt disconnected—from God, from myself, and from the woman I longed to be.
Like so many of the women I now serve, I kept trying to pray harder, serve more, and fix myself—hoping the fog would lift, the guilt would fade, and I’d finally feel close to God’s love again. But none of it worked.
What changed?
I finally realized that it wasn’t my faith that was failing—it was the version of it I’d been handed. The one rooted in fear, control, and silence. So I started to untangle the lies, listen for God’s true voice, and walk in the kind of healing that leads to spiritual freedom—not fear.
And the outcome?
I created the kind of compassionate, honest, Spirit-led healing journey I couldn’t find anywhere else. One that doesn’t ask you to throw everything away—just to lay down what was never yours to carry. And that’s exactly why this podcast was born.
If you’re ready to untangle what’s been keeping you stuck—and find real, spiritual healing that doesn’t ask you to lose your faith in the process—this podcast is for you.
Each episode will help you rebuild your trust in God, rest from spiritual performance, and rediscover the voice you were never meant to silence.
You’ll hear real stories, soul-grounded teaching, and healing truths rooted in compassion, clarity, and true connection.
And when you’re ready to go deeper:
Take the Quiz – Discover how religious trauma may have shaped your story and where your healing can begin.
👉 www.religioustraumaquiz.com
Read my Book + Mini-Course – Start He Is Enough and the companion Truth Over Tradition mini-course—your gentle first step into clarity, emotional well-being, and true healing.
👉 www.heisenoughbook.com
Or simply ask me a question at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org—I’d love to hear your story.
No perfection required. Just bring your questions and your favorite tea, and settle in. This space was made to feel like home.
ABOUT
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it’s like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real. Around here, the tea is hot, the wisdom is hard-won, and no question is off limits.
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Do you love God—but feel like you’re slowly drifting away from Him, and you don’t know why? Are you scared that questioning your church—or your faith—might mean losing everything you love? Do you constantly second-guess your emotions, your voice, even your own intuition—wondering if you’re the problem? Are you exhausted from trying to be good enough, faithful enough, spiritual enough… and still feeling like you fall short? Do you feel spiritually homeless—longing for a safe space where you can be honest, messy, and still welcomed with open arms?
If that all sounds a little too familiar, take a deep breath. You’ve found a place to land.
Healing Religious Trauma is a podcast designed to help you:
1. Rebuild your relationship with a safe, loving God.
2. Feel emotionally and spiritually safe enough to ask honest questions.
3. Hear God’s voice for yourself—without fear, shame, or outside filters.
4. Let go of guilt and reclaim your voice, your worth, and your inner peace.
5. Find a gentle, supportive space where spiritual transformation and healing are real and faith still matters.
Hi, I’m Debra.
A lifelong woman of faith who spent decades trying to earn God’s love by doing everything “right.” I was the helper, the volunteer, the spiritual overachiever. But underneath all the striving, I felt disconnected—from God, from myself, and from the woman I longed to be.
Like so many of the women I now serve, I kept trying to pray harder, serve more, and fix myself—hoping the fog would lift, the guilt would fade, and I’d finally feel close to God’s love again. But none of it worked.
What changed?
I finally realized that it wasn’t my faith that was failing—it was the version of it I’d been handed. The one rooted in fear, control, and silence. So I started to untangle the lies, listen for God’s true voice, and walk in the kind of healing that leads to spiritual freedom—not fear.
And the outcome?
I created the kind of compassionate, honest, Spirit-led healing journey I couldn’t find anywhere else. One that doesn’t ask you to throw everything away—just to lay down what was never yours to carry. And that’s exactly why this podcast was born.
If you’re ready to untangle what’s been keeping you stuck—and find real, spiritual healing that doesn’t ask you to lose your faith in the process—this podcast is for you.
Each episode will help you rebuild your trust in God, rest from spiritual performance, and rediscover the voice you were never meant to silence.
You’ll hear real stories, soul-grounded teaching, and healing truths rooted in compassion, clarity, and true connection.
And when you’re ready to go deeper:
Take the Quiz – Discover how religious trauma may have shaped your story and where your healing can begin.
👉 www.religioustraumaquiz.com
Read my Book + Mini-Course – Start He Is Enough and the companion Truth Over Tradition mini-course—your gentle first step into clarity, emotional well-being, and true healing.
👉 www.heisenoughbook.com
Or simply ask me a question at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org—I’d love to hear your story.
No perfection required. Just bring your questions and your favorite tea, and settle in. This space was made to feel like home.
ABOUT
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it’s like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real. Around here, the tea is hot, the wisdom is hard-won, and no question is off limits.
18 | Too Much to Fully Seen: Finding Inner Peace | Hidden Barriers #10
HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA for Christian Women | Inner Peace, Trust God, Spiritual Healing, God’s Love, True Connection, Gene
19 minutes
2 days ago
18 | Too Much to Fully Seen: Finding Inner Peace | Hidden Barriers #10
Have you ever been told you're too sensitive? Too emotional? Too intense? Too much? Maybe you learned to monitor how much you talk in conversations, always holding back. Maybe you apologize for having needs, or you've gotten really good at making yourself small so others feel comfortable around you.
Episode Description
In this episode, we explore the "I'm Too Much" barrier and discover that you were never too much—you were just in spaces too small. Through stories of transformation, including the revelation that "enthusiasm" literally means "having God within," you'll uncover how religious environments fear female power and authentic expression. This isn't about becoming more demanding—it's about understanding that what you were told was "too much" was actually God's Spirit expressing through your unique design.
In this episode, you'll discover:
→ How the "I'm Too Much" belief gets installed through messages that your emotions are excessive, your needs are selfish, and your passion is prideful
→ Why you weren't born with a problem—you were born with a size eight foot but given a size seven shoe (or smaller)
→ What this barrier is costing you in your relationships, spiritual life, work, and even in your physical body
→ How real love—divine love—doesn't ask you to shrink but invites you to expand into bigger spaces
→ One brave action this week to stop apologizing for your fullness and step into spaces big enough to honor who you are
Healing Truth
You were never too much. You were divinely designed. The fire in you, the passion, the deep emotions, the big dreams—none of that was ever the problem. What you were told was "too much" is actually God's Spirit expressing through your unique gifts. You didn't need to become smaller. You needed bigger spaces, bigger relationships, bigger containers that could honor your divine design. Real love doesn't require you to be less—it celebrates you being fully you.
Ready to go deeper?
Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE.
Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. In Milestone 10, learn to navigate authentic relationships with divine boundaries and step into containers big enough for your authentic self.
About Debra
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.
Listener Love
If this episode helped you see that you're not too much, would you share it with someone who needs to hear this truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover that their needs aren't too much and their presence is a gift.
This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experie
HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA for Christian Women | Inner Peace, Trust God, Spiritual Healing, God’s Love, True Connection, Gene
Do you love God—but feel like you’re slowly drifting away from Him, and you don’t know why? Are you scared that questioning your church—or your faith—might mean losing everything you love? Do you constantly second-guess your emotions, your voice, even your own intuition—wondering if you’re the problem? Are you exhausted from trying to be good enough, faithful enough, spiritual enough… and still feeling like you fall short? Do you feel spiritually homeless—longing for a safe space where you can be honest, messy, and still welcomed with open arms?
If that all sounds a little too familiar, take a deep breath. You’ve found a place to land.
Healing Religious Trauma is a podcast designed to help you:
1. Rebuild your relationship with a safe, loving God.
2. Feel emotionally and spiritually safe enough to ask honest questions.
3. Hear God’s voice for yourself—without fear, shame, or outside filters.
4. Let go of guilt and reclaim your voice, your worth, and your inner peace.
5. Find a gentle, supportive space where spiritual transformation and healing are real and faith still matters.
Hi, I’m Debra.
A lifelong woman of faith who spent decades trying to earn God’s love by doing everything “right.” I was the helper, the volunteer, the spiritual overachiever. But underneath all the striving, I felt disconnected—from God, from myself, and from the woman I longed to be.
Like so many of the women I now serve, I kept trying to pray harder, serve more, and fix myself—hoping the fog would lift, the guilt would fade, and I’d finally feel close to God’s love again. But none of it worked.
What changed?
I finally realized that it wasn’t my faith that was failing—it was the version of it I’d been handed. The one rooted in fear, control, and silence. So I started to untangle the lies, listen for God’s true voice, and walk in the kind of healing that leads to spiritual freedom—not fear.
And the outcome?
I created the kind of compassionate, honest, Spirit-led healing journey I couldn’t find anywhere else. One that doesn’t ask you to throw everything away—just to lay down what was never yours to carry. And that’s exactly why this podcast was born.
If you’re ready to untangle what’s been keeping you stuck—and find real, spiritual healing that doesn’t ask you to lose your faith in the process—this podcast is for you.
Each episode will help you rebuild your trust in God, rest from spiritual performance, and rediscover the voice you were never meant to silence.
You’ll hear real stories, soul-grounded teaching, and healing truths rooted in compassion, clarity, and true connection.
And when you’re ready to go deeper:
Take the Quiz – Discover how religious trauma may have shaped your story and where your healing can begin.
👉 www.religioustraumaquiz.com
Read my Book + Mini-Course – Start He Is Enough and the companion Truth Over Tradition mini-course—your gentle first step into clarity, emotional well-being, and true healing.
👉 www.heisenoughbook.com
Or simply ask me a question at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org—I’d love to hear your story.
No perfection required. Just bring your questions and your favorite tea, and settle in. This space was made to feel like home.
ABOUT
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it’s like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real. Around here, the tea is hot, the wisdom is hard-won, and no question is off limits.