HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA for Christian Women | Inner Peace, Trust God, Spiritual Healing, God’s Love, True Connection, Gene
Debra Shafer | Spiritual Healing Coach for Christian Women | Founder, Healing Religious Trauma Circle | Walking Women Home to a Safe, Loving God | Voice of Gentle Clarity, Healing, and Truth
19 episodes
2 days ago
Do you love God—but feel like you’re slowly drifting away from Him, and you don’t know why? Are you scared that questioning your church—or your faith—might mean losing everything you love? Do you constantly second-guess your emotions, your voice, even your own intuition—wondering if you’re the problem? Are you exhausted from trying to be good enough, faithful enough, spiritual enough… and still feeling like you fall short? Do you feel spiritually homeless—longing for a safe space where you can be honest, messy, and still welcomed with open arms?
If that all sounds a little too familiar, take a deep breath. You’ve found a place to land.
Healing Religious Trauma is a podcast designed to help you:
1. Rebuild your relationship with a safe, loving God.
2. Feel emotionally and spiritually safe enough to ask honest questions.
3. Hear God’s voice for yourself—without fear, shame, or outside filters.
4. Let go of guilt and reclaim your voice, your worth, and your inner peace.
5. Find a gentle, supportive space where spiritual transformation and healing are real and faith still matters.
Hi, I’m Debra.
A lifelong woman of faith who spent decades trying to earn God’s love by doing everything “right.” I was the helper, the volunteer, the spiritual overachiever. But underneath all the striving, I felt disconnected—from God, from myself, and from the woman I longed to be.
Like so many of the women I now serve, I kept trying to pray harder, serve more, and fix myself—hoping the fog would lift, the guilt would fade, and I’d finally feel close to God’s love again. But none of it worked.
What changed?
I finally realized that it wasn’t my faith that was failing—it was the version of it I’d been handed. The one rooted in fear, control, and silence. So I started to untangle the lies, listen for God’s true voice, and walk in the kind of healing that leads to spiritual freedom—not fear.
And the outcome?
I created the kind of compassionate, honest, Spirit-led healing journey I couldn’t find anywhere else. One that doesn’t ask you to throw everything away—just to lay down what was never yours to carry. And that’s exactly why this podcast was born.
If you’re ready to untangle what’s been keeping you stuck—and find real, spiritual healing that doesn’t ask you to lose your faith in the process—this podcast is for you.
Each episode will help you rebuild your trust in God, rest from spiritual performance, and rediscover the voice you were never meant to silence.
You’ll hear real stories, soul-grounded teaching, and healing truths rooted in compassion, clarity, and true connection.
And when you’re ready to go deeper:
Take the Quiz – Discover how religious trauma may have shaped your story and where your healing can begin.
👉 www.religioustraumaquiz.com
Read my Book + Mini-Course – Start He Is Enough and the companion Truth Over Tradition mini-course—your gentle first step into clarity, emotional well-being, and true healing.
👉 www.heisenoughbook.com
Or simply ask me a question at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org—I’d love to hear your story.
No perfection required. Just bring your questions and your favorite tea, and settle in. This space was made to feel like home.
ABOUT
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it’s like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real. Around here, the tea is hot, the wisdom is hard-won, and no question is off limits.
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Do you love God—but feel like you’re slowly drifting away from Him, and you don’t know why? Are you scared that questioning your church—or your faith—might mean losing everything you love? Do you constantly second-guess your emotions, your voice, even your own intuition—wondering if you’re the problem? Are you exhausted from trying to be good enough, faithful enough, spiritual enough… and still feeling like you fall short? Do you feel spiritually homeless—longing for a safe space where you can be honest, messy, and still welcomed with open arms?
If that all sounds a little too familiar, take a deep breath. You’ve found a place to land.
Healing Religious Trauma is a podcast designed to help you:
1. Rebuild your relationship with a safe, loving God.
2. Feel emotionally and spiritually safe enough to ask honest questions.
3. Hear God’s voice for yourself—without fear, shame, or outside filters.
4. Let go of guilt and reclaim your voice, your worth, and your inner peace.
5. Find a gentle, supportive space where spiritual transformation and healing are real and faith still matters.
Hi, I’m Debra.
A lifelong woman of faith who spent decades trying to earn God’s love by doing everything “right.” I was the helper, the volunteer, the spiritual overachiever. But underneath all the striving, I felt disconnected—from God, from myself, and from the woman I longed to be.
Like so many of the women I now serve, I kept trying to pray harder, serve more, and fix myself—hoping the fog would lift, the guilt would fade, and I’d finally feel close to God’s love again. But none of it worked.
What changed?
I finally realized that it wasn’t my faith that was failing—it was the version of it I’d been handed. The one rooted in fear, control, and silence. So I started to untangle the lies, listen for God’s true voice, and walk in the kind of healing that leads to spiritual freedom—not fear.
And the outcome?
I created the kind of compassionate, honest, Spirit-led healing journey I couldn’t find anywhere else. One that doesn’t ask you to throw everything away—just to lay down what was never yours to carry. And that’s exactly why this podcast was born.
If you’re ready to untangle what’s been keeping you stuck—and find real, spiritual healing that doesn’t ask you to lose your faith in the process—this podcast is for you.
Each episode will help you rebuild your trust in God, rest from spiritual performance, and rediscover the voice you were never meant to silence.
You’ll hear real stories, soul-grounded teaching, and healing truths rooted in compassion, clarity, and true connection.
And when you’re ready to go deeper:
Take the Quiz – Discover how religious trauma may have shaped your story and where your healing can begin.
👉 www.religioustraumaquiz.com
Read my Book + Mini-Course – Start He Is Enough and the companion Truth Over Tradition mini-course—your gentle first step into clarity, emotional well-being, and true healing.
👉 www.heisenoughbook.com
Or simply ask me a question at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org—I’d love to hear your story.
No perfection required. Just bring your questions and your favorite tea, and settle in. This space was made to feel like home.
ABOUT
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it’s like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real. Around here, the tea is hot, the wisdom is hard-won, and no question is off limits.
Have you ever felt like your presence only matters when you're doing something for someone else?
Maybe you've spent years showing up for everyone - listening to their struggles, meeting their needs, celebrating their wins. But when it's your turn? When you're hurting or exhausted or just need someone to see you? The room goes quiet. The phone doesn't ring. And you tell yourself, "It's fine. I don't need much."
If you've learned to be "low-maintenance" and the easy one who doesn't cause problems, or if you've been making yourself small and invisible just to keep the peace - this episode is for you.
Episode Description
If you've been living as though your needs don't count, you're not alone - and you're not too much. Today we're exploring one of the most painful hidden barriers of religious trauma: the belief "I Don't Matter."
Through Debra's story - from having major decisions made without her voice to discovering that God wasn't the one making her invisible - we'll uncover how religious environments can teach women that self-sacrifice means self-erasure and that asking for help is selfish.
You'll discover how Jesus treated every individual as supremely valuable through His divine healing methods, and learn that the sacred parts of your soul were meant to be cherished, not trampled.
This isn't about becoming more demanding - it's about discovering that you matter completely, not because of what you accomplish or how perfectly you serve, but because God placed immeasurable value on you when He created you.
In this episode, you'll discover:
→ Why minimizing your needs and making yourself invisible keeps you disconnected from authentic care - and how to recognize when you're doing it
→ How Jesus' far-seeing intuition took in the necessities of each person's case - from the blind man to the bleeding woman to Mary and Martha
→ The sacred parts of your soul that were meant to flourish in safety, to be seen with tenderness, to be valued without performance
→ The revolutionary truth that just as a baby doesn't have to earn her parents' care, you don't have to earn God's attention and love
→ One simple act of self-care this week that reflects your inherent worth - not because you earned it, but because you matter
Healing Truth
You matter completely - not because of what you do, but because of who you are. Jesus' far-seeing intuition still takes in all the necessities of your case. Your pain still moves His heart. Your needs are sacred to Him. The sacred parts of your soul that were meant to be cherished aren't too damaged for His healing touch. The woman who allows herself to be seen, who honors her needs without guilt, who receives care without feeling she must immediately reciprocate - she's not someone you have to become. She's who you've always been, waiting to be remembered beneath all the minimizing.
Ready to go deeper?
Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE as my thank you for taking this brave step.
Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com - a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. In Milestone 8, study Jesus' divine healing methods and discover how to restore the sacred parts of your soul. Get all the details at TheComingHomeJourney.com.
About Debra
I'm Debra Schafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who love God deeply but feel exhausted by religi
HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA for Christian Women | Inner Peace, Trust God, Spiritual Healing, God’s Love, True Connection, Gene
Do you love God—but feel like you’re slowly drifting away from Him, and you don’t know why? Are you scared that questioning your church—or your faith—might mean losing everything you love? Do you constantly second-guess your emotions, your voice, even your own intuition—wondering if you’re the problem? Are you exhausted from trying to be good enough, faithful enough, spiritual enough… and still feeling like you fall short? Do you feel spiritually homeless—longing for a safe space where you can be honest, messy, and still welcomed with open arms?
If that all sounds a little too familiar, take a deep breath. You’ve found a place to land.
Healing Religious Trauma is a podcast designed to help you:
1. Rebuild your relationship with a safe, loving God.
2. Feel emotionally and spiritually safe enough to ask honest questions.
3. Hear God’s voice for yourself—without fear, shame, or outside filters.
4. Let go of guilt and reclaim your voice, your worth, and your inner peace.
5. Find a gentle, supportive space where spiritual transformation and healing are real and faith still matters.
Hi, I’m Debra.
A lifelong woman of faith who spent decades trying to earn God’s love by doing everything “right.” I was the helper, the volunteer, the spiritual overachiever. But underneath all the striving, I felt disconnected—from God, from myself, and from the woman I longed to be.
Like so many of the women I now serve, I kept trying to pray harder, serve more, and fix myself—hoping the fog would lift, the guilt would fade, and I’d finally feel close to God’s love again. But none of it worked.
What changed?
I finally realized that it wasn’t my faith that was failing—it was the version of it I’d been handed. The one rooted in fear, control, and silence. So I started to untangle the lies, listen for God’s true voice, and walk in the kind of healing that leads to spiritual freedom—not fear.
And the outcome?
I created the kind of compassionate, honest, Spirit-led healing journey I couldn’t find anywhere else. One that doesn’t ask you to throw everything away—just to lay down what was never yours to carry. And that’s exactly why this podcast was born.
If you’re ready to untangle what’s been keeping you stuck—and find real, spiritual healing that doesn’t ask you to lose your faith in the process—this podcast is for you.
Each episode will help you rebuild your trust in God, rest from spiritual performance, and rediscover the voice you were never meant to silence.
You’ll hear real stories, soul-grounded teaching, and healing truths rooted in compassion, clarity, and true connection.
And when you’re ready to go deeper:
Take the Quiz – Discover how religious trauma may have shaped your story and where your healing can begin.
👉 www.religioustraumaquiz.com
Read my Book + Mini-Course – Start He Is Enough and the companion Truth Over Tradition mini-course—your gentle first step into clarity, emotional well-being, and true healing.
👉 www.heisenoughbook.com
Or simply ask me a question at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org—I’d love to hear your story.
No perfection required. Just bring your questions and your favorite tea, and settle in. This space was made to feel like home.
ABOUT
Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it’s like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real. Around here, the tea is hot, the wisdom is hard-won, and no question is off limits.
