Mum guilt. We all feel it — but what if it’s not actually guilt at all?

This week I’m joined by Francie, a mindset coach for mums and mum of two, to dig into the invisible load of motherhood, the “perfect mother” myth, and the subconscious patterns that sit underneath what we call guilt. Spoiler: many of us are really carrying shame or grief.

We talk about:
✨ Why the invisible load of motherhood is so exhausting — and often goes unseen

✨ How the “perfect mum” myth sets us up to fail

✨ The self-abandoning patterns that lead to burnout and resentment

✨ Why emotional regulation is essential for both mothers and kids

✨ Generational shifts in parenting (and why our mums’ experience still lingers in us)

✨ Practical tools to manage the cognitive load and release pressure

✨ Why asking for help is a strength, not a weakness

Francie’s perspective is both practical and compassionate — reminding us that taking care of ourselves isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing, constantly battling that inner critic, or weighed down by mum guilt, this conversation will give you new language, fresh perspective, and real tools to lighten the load.

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