Life's Little Lessons with a Big Impact.
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Whether we're diving into books that change our perspective or unpacking personal experiences that teach us something new, this podcast is for women who are done playing small and ready to embrace their own journey.
If you've struggled with putting everyone else first or battled self-doubt, you're in the right place. This isn't about perfection—it's about the messy, beautiful process of growing into yourself.
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Life's Little Lessons with a Big Impact.
Welcome to Growing with Sol, where we explore the moments and stories that shape who we're becoming. I'm Sol, and this is my space for real conversations about growth, self-discovery, and learning to put yourself first.
Whether we're diving into books that change our perspective or unpacking personal experiences that teach us something new, this podcast is for women who are done playing small and ready to embrace their own journey.
If you've struggled with putting everyone else first or battled self-doubt, you're in the right place. This isn't about perfection—it's about the messy, beautiful process of growing into yourself.
Come grow with me 🌱
Let's stay connected! Join our growing community @YourCoachMari [https://www.instagram.com/yourcoachmari/] and @GrowingWithSolPod [https://www.instagram.com/growingwithsolpod/] on Instagram, and catch me on TikTok @YourCoachMari [https://www.tiktok.com/@yourcoachmari] for bite-sized growth tips between episodes.
Shape-Shifting to Please Others: Why You Don't Recognize Yourself
Growing with Sol
19 minutes
3 months ago
Shape-Shifting to Please Others: Why You Don't Recognize Yourself
This is the identity wake-up call that shows you exactly how people pleasing is erasing who you really are. The moment when you stop thinking shape-shifting to fit in is harmless and start understanding how the chameleon effect is slowly making you unrecognizable to yourself.
Here's the real cost of being a social chameleon:
* Opinion shifting: how being agreeable erodes your actual beliefs until you don't know what you really think
* Decision paralysis: why you can't make choices without consulting others first (because you need to know what's "acceptable")
* The exhaustion effect: feeling drained after social interactions from constant self-monitoring and performance
* Identity fragmentation: becoming a different person with different groups until you lose track of who's real
* Validation addiction: that dopamine hit when your performance gets accepted by the in-group
* Relationship emptiness: why connections built on personas feel hollow even when you're surrounded by people
* How to reclaim your authentic self through small moments of genuine expression
From picking up accents while traveling (harmless) to twisting your values to meet others' expectations (identity-erasing), this episode exposes the difference between natural social mirroring and destructive shape-shifting.
Because here's the truth: when you build relationships based on performance instead of authenticity, you'll always feel like there's a metaphorical film between you and everyone else.
The people who love the real you are worth the temporary anxiety of potential disapproval.
Subscribe. Share. Remember that your authentic self is worth keeping - flaws and all.
Small steps, big healing. Keep growing! ✨
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Growing with Sol
Life's Little Lessons with a Big Impact.
Welcome to Growing with Sol, where we explore the moments and stories that shape who we're becoming. I'm Sol, and this is my space for real conversations about growth, self-discovery, and learning to put yourself first.
Whether we're diving into books that change our perspective or unpacking personal experiences that teach us something new, this podcast is for women who are done playing small and ready to embrace their own journey.
If you've struggled with putting everyone else first or battled self-doubt, you're in the right place. This isn't about perfection—it's about the messy, beautiful process of growing into yourself.
Come grow with me 🌱
Let's stay connected! Join our growing community @YourCoachMari [https://www.instagram.com/yourcoachmari/] and @GrowingWithSolPod [https://www.instagram.com/growingwithsolpod/] on Instagram, and catch me on TikTok @YourCoachMari [https://www.tiktok.com/@yourcoachmari] for bite-sized growth tips between episodes.
