In this deeply personal episode, I share my own surprising discovery that I have an anxious attachment style—even after years of personal development work.
Dating someone with avoidant tendencies has become both mirror and teacher for me. I open up about moments when my nervous system panicked, the roots of those responses in my past relationship, and the humbling gift of seeing how the same dynamics I once resented are now playing out in reverse.
We’ll explore:
What attachment styles are and how they develop
How anxious and avoidant patterns dance together in relationships
Why these styles aren’t character flaws but protective strategies
My own raw experience of confronting anxious attachment
Practical ways to move toward secure attachment
This episode is for anyone who has felt rejected, smothered, overwhelmed, or terrified of being abandoned in love—and wants to bring more compassion, self-awareness, and healing to their relationships.
It’s vulnerable work. It’s necessary work. And it’s work that can transform not just our connections with others, but our relationship with ourselves.
If this resonates with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear it.
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