The yoga of relationships is a ever available playground where we can practise the concomitant occurance of need, presence and awakening. How can two lovers possibly awaken together without renunciating the passionate longing for each other? Sounds like a maze but a conscious practise of awareness is all that's needed. Identity traps are the biggest things that seize our attention in the deepest of our associations. We remain trapped as being who we are to the other and allmost terrorizing the other to be similarly so. Because even if one of us looses the garb of identity, his nakedness begins to threaten the ruin of their relationship. It's like a death knell as how could you possibly romance a nobody. The whole illusion of the shared palace of the relationship stands shattered in the face of such calamity. Who will we be when we can't even be ourselves anymore..it's scary and death like. We want to be enlightened...sure but we would like to still hold on to our closest ones too. It sounds paradoxical and strange. But surely it's possible to co exist in deeply loving ways to our dear ones and still not fall into the trap of belonging any place. This is possible when both the participants are honestly seeking an awakening and have a will to move in tandem and awareness. It's easy to get lost in the dramas of relationships when one comes from a place of deep identifications of one self and other. The perpetual trial to tailor make relationship according to these identities with it's likes and dislikes becomes the main agenda and the real idea of evolution from the mundane attachment is forgotten. The same relationship that heals, solace's and supports becomes a binge of pain and pleasure alternating itself cyclically..it becomes a trap rather than an open sky of freedom and oneness. So if you are lucky and have someone who wishes to awaken with you while you both are in love...it's a precious and rare blessing of a lifetime. Go all out, practise the yoga of relationships with compassion and awareness and knead yourself into a true oneness of being