Love as the mating of two solitudes.. We know of the conventional love alone. The love that is born out of a concept of mutual fullfillment and an amusement of social norms and conditions..like all other entertainments, love is now a cheap thrill of pleasure and pain and has no sacred or neuter components there of. We all wish to love the other merely seeking a refuge from our own loneliness and incompletion. True love is on the contrary never possible between two halves who are confused and incomplete and anxiously seeking a merger as a solution. True love is a celebration of association rather of two solitudes that have now learnt fully that they are deep, complete and resounding of themselves in undiluted richness. What can arise out of the fusion of two blocks of chaos and lust themselves? Nothing but deeper chaos and mess. No wonder the society today is full of such wrecks in the name of love, marriage etc. Preparedness is vital for conjunction. What is best preparation? The stilling in one's own self, spending meaningful solitude where the biases are watched and allowed to dissolve. The pre requisite of being a nobody is to be fullfilled before love is stepped into. Nothing else needed, surrender and mutual appreciation is then not a cheap intellectual tool but rather a powerful step towards one's own deeper revelation through the beloved. How many of us can practise to live with one's own aloneness before the wedding night of communion with the beloved? It is scary , boring and does not inspire most of us who want instant coffee of quick unmindful sex and need quench. Who has time for pleasure when orgasm is what one has known and seeked so far? The depths of love are not meant for such hasty and unmindful ones and it's treasures will remain ever hidden from them. Only the aware, silent and patient mindful ones will reveal love in its Glory and full form..the others will only claim to love. Staying in the shallow waters and believing themselves to be in love... They will fool and chaos themselves more and more. A man who truly loves himself can only love the other..no one can give us anything that we are not.