Is it really just “church hurt,” or are pastors hiding something deeper? In this episode, we break down the difference between church hurt and full-blown spiritual abuse—and how toxic leaders twist one to excuse the other. Using real-life sermon clips, we expose the gaslighting tactics, false theology, and shaming language used to silence wounded believers. We also offer a biblical pathway to healing for those who’ve been told to “get over it” or to “grow up and move on”. Because real healing doesn’t come from the pulpit, it comes from Jesus.
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. - Psalm 34:18 ESV
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Playlists:
Show Links:
Luke St. Clair – “write your little blog about us”
Tyler Walea – “Church Hurt definition”
Josh Herring – “get over what happened”
Matthew Tuttle – “wrong church, wrong pastor”
David K Bernard – “spiritually abusive church leaders”
Landon Gore – “get over the church hurt”
Matthew Tuttle – “ya’ll may have some church hurt, but…”
Responsible Faith – Spiritual Abuse: Grooming and Gaslighting in High Control Churches
Douglas White – “their claims are just pathetic excuses”
T’Neil Walea – “church hurt all the time”
Dillon Morgan – “I’ll save you from backsliding”
Bart Adkins – “get over it and serve God!”
Matthew Tuttle – “how long are you gonna pout?”
Resources:
Spiritualabuse.org
B.I.T.E. Model Website
B.I.T.E. Model Free PDF
Book: Toxic Faith
Book: The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse
Books: Pagan Christianity? Exploring the Roots of Our Church Practices
Book: Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness Pentecostalism
Book: Free: From Legalism to Grace
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