If you’ve ever missed your life before you became a parent you are not alone. So much is gained from having children and at the same time there is loss.

Going out for a night with your friends is just one of many ways you can help yourself feel more in touch with your pre-child life.

What many parents struggle with is saying no to their kids or partner, because a night out with friends is a no to spending time with them.

It can require setting a boundary in order to prioritise yourself.

It’s important to know spending time away from your kids AND enjoying it does not make you a bad parent. Spending time away from your kids is not selfish, it's self-sustaining.

Psychologist Dr Becky Kennedy says to remind your kids they’re allowed to feel upset about you going out, remind them they’re safe, they’re going to get through this and you’ll see them in the morning. 

Tolerating children’s feelings allows them to get better at coping with their feelings.

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