I’m joined by the one and only Neeki Motabar, host of The Baddest B*** in the Building Podcast*, and we’re diving deep into the world of dating power plays — from singles who are in their soft girl but strategic era, to the girlies navigating long-term relationships and learning how to keep the balance of love and leverage.Neeki shares how she reimagined The 48 Laws of Power into her own 28 Girly Laws of Power — rules every woman should know to date smarter, lead with confidence, and challenge the patriarchy without ever breaking a sweat.We’re talking attraction, energy shifts, emotional control, and how to hold your power in any dating scenario — whether you’re out here playing the field or building an empire with your partner.So grab your drink, adjust your crown, and let’s learn how to be The Baddest B*** in the Building*… one power move at a time.Find Us HERE:https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/https://www.instagram.com/tatumzoeee/https://www.youtube.com/@baddestBinthebldg
This week’s episode is all about friendships, boundaries, and showing up with grace.I’m diving into the art of compartmentalizing friendships — because let’s be honest, not every friend plays the same role in our lives (and that’s totally okay). From The Therapist, The Party Starter, The Planner, The Ghost Texter, The Drama Magnet, to The Mom Friend — we all have our people who serve different purposes, and that’s what makes friendship so special.I’m also getting real about how I personally compartmentalize my friendships, how to strengthen communication for deeper, more vulnerable connections, and how to navigate it all with love, self-awareness, and grace.Grab your drink, text your group chat, and let’s talk about how to show up for our people and ourselves — even when it’s hard.
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116- This week’s episode is giving chaos, honesty, and birthday energy!
I’m answering What Would Tatum Do? — ten hilarious (and slightly unhinged) scenarios my friends came up with to see if they could guess how I’d really react. I’m reading them for the first time on the podcast, so you’re getting my unfiltered, real-time reactions.
You’ll also get clips from my birthday weekend — the hibachi dinner, confessional moments, and even a few bloopers at the end. So stick around, because it’s giving party meets podcast.
And of course, I had to dig into the Hoe Bag — pulling random dating and relationship questions and answering them as raw and real as it gets. Plus, I’m spilling what really went down on my birthday (because you know there’s always a story).
Grab your drink, get comfy, and let’s get into the madness that is What Would Tatum Do?
This week’s episode is all about the expectations we put on friendships—especially me, because girl, I’ve had some lessons to learn.I’m getting real about how I’ve lost friendships because of unrealistic expectations and how much I’ve grown from those moments. We’re also diving into your poll answers and write-ins about the struggles that come with adult friendships—because let’s be honest, it’s not always easy figuring out who’s in your corner.And of course, I’m sharing some story times from the girls and their experiences, because what’s a “Girl Stop Talking” episode without a little drama, a little heart, and a whole lot of honesty?Hang in until the end for some bloopers. I really struggled sharing honestly with this without oversharing experiences that are close to me, don't worry there's more to come.
113- This week’s episode is extra special because we’re closing the chapter on my 20s and stepping into a whole new era. You know birthdays have always been a big deal for me — but this one hits different.I’m diving into childhood memories, why I’ve always celebrated birthdays like they’re my personal Super Bowl, and sharing the 30 lessons I’ve learned in 30 years.
From love and friendships to career chaos and self-growth — nothing is off-limits. We’re talking about why the bare minimum is NOT effort (say it louder for the people in the back ), how red flags don’t magically turn green, why therapy isn’t the problem you are, and why your 20s are for learning but your 30s?
Baby, they’re for living. So grab a drink, come laugh (and maybe cry a little) with me, and let’s toast to lessons learned, bad hangovers survived, friendships redefined, and stepping into our glow-up era with confidence.
112- ⚠️ Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence & Emotional Abuse ⚠️This week’s episode is a little different, giiiirl—I’m sharing my own personal (and very dramatic) story about my most toxic relationship. We’re talking court dates, restraining orders, wild nights out, people showing up where they definitely shouldn’t, and the total disconnect between the courts and the law.Now, I know that’s heavy, and I want to be clear: this episode includes discussions of emotional abuse and domestic violence. But you know me—I’m telling my truth with my own personal twist of humor. Because honestly… if we’re not laughing through the pain, what are we even doing?And before we dive in, I want to add some context: this story took place almost 7years ago, and lasted past it's expiration date. There’s been a lot of therapy, healing & gossiping since then, which is why I finally feel comfortable opening up and sharing it with you now.So many of us go through these traumas without anywhere to turn. I hope hearing my story you'll realize you're not alone, and even though times can be dark, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep fighting for your future self!Find Us Here:
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111- This week’s episode is a special one — my man is finally on the mic with me! We’re giving you the inside scoop on how we met, the funny details of our relationship, and answering all the questions YOU sent in on Instagram.We’re talking dating, love, and everything in between — from the silly quirks of being a couple to the deeper lessons we’ve learned along the way. And don’t worry, singles, we’ve got you covered too. We’re sharing advice for anyone jumping back into the dating world and how to spot someone who’s actually worth your time.It’s flirty, fun, and totally unfiltered — just the way you like it. So grab your drink, tune in, and get to know us a little better while picking up some tips for your own love life.
110- This week’s episode is all about the bare minimum — why we settle for it, how it’s disguised as “effort,” and the many ways it sneaks into our relationships.
I’m spilling my own stories (with plenty of laughs, of course), plus reading a raw, personal listener submission that fits this topic too well.
We’re also unpacking my Instagram poll on “bare minimum vs. effort” (the results did NOT disappoint ), and to top it off, I’m giving you the lowdown on my 10-day parasite + heavy metal detox. Because yes, apparently I’m detoxing AND dragging men at the same time.
Grab your a pen and paper for this one because I'm giving you homework this week! And Giiiirlllll — this one’s unfiltered, savage, and just the reality check we all need.https://www.instagram.com/tatumzoeee/
109- This week’s episode of Girl Stop Talking is serving up chaos, honesty, and a whole lot of laughs. Tatum dives into the icks — those little turn-offs that can turn a summer fling from hot to not real quick.
She shares her own list of “icks,” reads hilarious (and sometimes cringe-worthy) listener stories about summer flings gone wrong, and breaks down the most common red flag moments we’ve all ignored. From flip-flops on a first date to that infamous hot-and-cold energy, nothing is off-limits.
On top of that, Tatum recaps her latest viral IG video, reads through some of the spiciest negative comments, and lets listeners in on what’s coming next for the show — plus a sneak peek into her big 30th birthday plans.
Unfiltered, relatable, and always hilarious, this week’s episode is all about navigating summer flings, spotting the icks, and laughing through the chaos.
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*BONUS*- This week’s episode is a little different, girlfriends — we’re going full vlog style! This is my first-ever YouTube vlog (so bare with me as I figure it out), and we’re recapping Chance and I's entire weekend in Nashville.From traveling together (and almost missing our flight… twice), to introducing my dad, hitting the Nashville bar scene, drag queen comedy roasts, and living it up at the Stimulate conference — this episode has it all... in real time!It’s unfiltered, and a little chaotic… just the way you like it. So grab a drink, come laugh with us, and let’s dive into our Nashville adventure.Find Us Here:https://www.instagram.com/tatumzoeee/https://www.instagram.com/makeup_bychance/
108- They dive into a jam-packed lineup of interviews, from sexologists to surgical professors, and everything in between — because, honestly, this one’s longer than usual! Here’s your minute-by-minute breakdown of the unfiltered magic:
Plus, Tatum and Chance aren’t just talking — they’re reacting, roasting, and reminding you why they’re the duo you came for. Get the full scoop on who’s on the stage, what’s on the table, and all the juicy behind-the-scenes.
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107- On this week’s episode, Chance and I are kicking off Day One of the Stimulate event, where we hosted interviews with a handful of incredible guests.
We sat down with a sexologist, a New York Times product reviewer, another fellow podcaster, a self-development coach, a hypno- and tantra sex therapist (Dr. Melissa Gentry), and Dr. Evan Goldstein — a sexual health and anal surgeon, founder of Bespoke Surgical and The Future Method.
Of course, you’ll also hear plenty of updates, commentary, and unhinged banter from your two favorites — Chance and I. This episode gives you a front-row seat to what’s happening at the Stimulate Sexual Health Conference, along with valuable insight from our amazing guests.
Oh, and did we mention? There’s also a special guest appearance from The Hoe Bag and some rapid-fire questions on sex, dating, and relationships that you won’t want to miss.
Tune in — this one is stimulating in all the right ways.
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106- On this week’s episode, Chance and I are recapping our weekend in Nashville — from day one all the way through multiple nights out, including hanging at the bar with my dad, his curious questions about Chance’s life, and his thoughts on makeup, tiktok and going out with full glam.
We also dive into the handful of people we met at the Stimulate event, plus all the details: the people, the afters, the setup, the breakdown, and everything that went down each day. From our hilarious run-ins with the Bach Bar cowboys to some very questionable night out experiences, this was one for the books.
Chance and Tatum take on Nashville — the certified “Country Vegas” — in a weekend of full-on exploration.
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105- This week’s episode gives listeners a behind-the-scenes look at Tatum and Chance’s first 24 hours in Nashville — and trust us, it’s a wild ride.
Tatum kicks things off with a fun and flirty intro on “Myths We Believed About Sex for Way Too Long,” setting the tone for a slightly different episode format. This one starts vlog-style before diving into all the juicy gossip — including how they almost missed their flight... twice.
Tatum also shares what it was like bringing her dad along to the Stimulate sexual health and wellness event — yes, her actual dad joined the party — and let’s just say, he got a front-row seat to the chaotic energy of his daughter and her glam co-host living their best lives.
Between the bar conversations, unfiltered comments about sex, and the dynamic between men and women in the wild streets of Nashville, this episode is full of laughs, unexpected moments, and life lessons for everyone involved.
Tune in for stories, sex myths, missed flights, and a dad who now knows way too much.
104- This week’s episode is all about when life comes crashing down… and burnout takes over.
Chance and I are gossiping about the telltale signs of burnout — because, babe, you might be going through it and not even realize. We spill on our own experiences, how we’ve (kind of) learned to navigate it, and of course, we get into all the toxic ways we’ve coped with it too.
We’re also headed to Nashville to do some live podcasting and host a pink carpet event for Stimulate, a sexual health and wellness show! Not to mention, Chance will be taking a little sabbatical — thanks to said burnout — to prepare for his iconic Halloween content.
It’s real, it’s funny, it’s chaotic in the best way… just how we like it.
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103- This week’s episode is all about parenting — but make it progressive!
Tatum dives into what progressive parenting means to her and how she’s used open, honest conversations to navigate those tricky early childhood years — including the uncomfortable (but necessary) talks about sex as her son has grown up.
She also opens up about what it’s really like to be in a co-parenting relationship — how it shapes the dynamic, the child’s life, and, of course, the funny, chaotic moments that come with it. Throughout the episode, Tatum shares hilarious and heartfelt stories from listeners who wrote in on Instagram, adding even more depth and ridiculous laughter.
Whether you’re a mom, a daughter, a friend, or just someone who’s ever been around a mother, this episode is for you. Together, Tatum debunks those toxic millennial childhood one-liners we all heard growing up — and laughs at the moments when, without even realizing it, we open our mouths and our parents come out.
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102- Waiters, Fedex, and Bedroom Fears — Oh My!
We’re back with an UNHINGED (and hilarious) catch-up 7 it's exactly what you needed! Tatum recaps Chance’s birthday dinner, including how their waiter fully committed to the bit, the unexpected gift that was opened at the table, and all the vibes of the night, pun intended.
Then we dive into what we’ve been up to these past few months — and let’s just say, the stories do NOT disappoint. Chance spills about an exciting parking lot encounter with a FedEx driver who wanted a little… mid-day action. Meanwhile, Tatum shares her #1 bedroom fear and how it actually came true (yikes).
And of course, they’re ending on a high: The Girl Stop Talking pod is headed to Nashville, baby! Tune in to hear all about their first live hosting & podcasting event — and stick around for the part where they maybe, just maybe, ride a bull, or a cowboy or two.
Grab your drink, press play, and let’s yap.
Episode 101- This Week’s Gossip: Why I Went MIA + The Red & Green Flags
You Can’t Ignore I'm back, giiirll — and I’ve got a LOT to catch you up on! In this week’s episode, I share all the drama on why I slid into the shadows these past couple of months, what made me hit pause on the podcast, and how that journey led me to finishing my CPT certification, checking on health, testing hormones, and some serious self-reflection!
Then, we dive deep into the good stuff: red and green flags in dating & relationships.We’re talking about the one who:
🚩 Takes forever to text back but always active on IG
🚩 Is still texting their ex
🚩 Always gives hot-and-cold energy
🚩 Sleeps with a mattress on the floor & no bed sheets? (yikes)… and so many more.
It’s not all negative — I'm also shining a light on the green flags you SHOULD look for, like:
💚 Clear communication & accountability
💚 Emotional security & effort
💚 Cheering for your wins & supporting your dreams
💚 Knowing the little things It’s messy, hilarious, and honest — just the way we like it.
Happy 100th episodes girrrrllllll!! It's been 3 weeks too long and I'm happy to be back. I obviously wanted this episodes to be perfect but knew it'd take time putting it together. Tune in to quite literally watch the growth of the show! From my old bedroom, un-synced audio, shitty camera quality to an in home studio, a better camera, and a co-host! I truly wish i could have added more because I couldn't even highlight HALF of the amazing people I've had on. I tried to grab my hottest takes and funniest stories to keep you guys entertained this week! I'm shocked I made it this far, loving you all!
99- Hey friends!
Today, Chance and I are back at it—chatting about the latest hard-boiled egg trend, and diving into our most chaotic nights out. Like seriously… how do we always manage to find ourselves in these wild situations?! It’s giving messy, but we love it!
I also go on a little rant—because duh—about a very specific type of man. You know the one. He’s always lurking in Old Town or posted up at the bar, acting like he’s got game, but really? He’s just using people to get what he wants. Makes me wanna gag. It's giving Broke behavior.
And to wrap it up, we’re sharing some stories from our high school days. For me? It’s all about the “things I did in high school that you would NEVER catch me doing now”—because, wow… growth is real, babes.
We love a little lighthearted drama between our deeper episodes, and Chance and I are here to serve exactly that. Buckle up—it’s gonna be a fun one!