In this illuminating episode of Gateways to Awakening, I speak with Dr. Mitch Abrams, a clinical psychologist, anger management expert, and author of Anger Management in Sport: Understanding and Controlling Violence in Athletes AND his latest book, "I'm Not F*cking Angry! Adjust the Flame to Get What You Want and Need".
Together, we explore the deeper layers of anger — what it really is, how it operates beneath the surface, and how we can transform it from a destructive force into a source of strength, clarity, and emotional intelligence.
“If I can provoke you, I can control you.” - Mitch Abrams
Dr. Abrams shares practical tools to help us recognize anger before it turns toxic — from breathwork and visualization to cognitive awareness and strategic pause. He discusses how anger often hides loneliness, misunderstanding, or self-judgment, and why learning to “adjust the flame” can restore our sense of control and power.
We also dive into:
How to identify your emotional triggers before they take over
The subtle differences in how anger shows up in men and wome
How relationships mirror our insecurities and reveal our work
The psychology behind reactivity — and how to choose calm over chaos
Why true confidence requires humility, and how self-efficacy builds resilience
This episode is an invitation to become less reactive and more rooted — to reclaim your energy, practice emotional mastery, and reconnect with your higher intelligence, even in moments of fire.
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