When 'acceptable behaviours' are force-fed to us and being 'good' becomes an ongoing pursuit, can we truly avoid people pleasing ? Don joins us in this episode with their razor-sharp analysis about our acquired and inherent need to people please and seek validation. We talk about our experiences of structural isolation and the longingness for acceptance, love, validation and - most importantly - safety. This episode is full of fun, guilt-ridden, quirky and exhausting anecdotes from family, workspaces, and even feminist friend circles- where we went out of our way to please people.Through the conversation, we gently allow ourselves to forgo the shame of wanting to please, recognising how deep it's reasons run. And give ourselves the collective permission to occasionally seek validation and please people for our happiness and theirs. Give this episode a listen and send us your 'sabudana vada' stories on fursatfeminism@gmail.com