"I did it because I knew it would make you happy." When my 6-year-old said this after a dentist visit, it sparked a deep realization about performance-based parenting that's silently destroying kids today. Are you accidentally teaching your children that love must be earned through achievements, wins, and perfect behavior? In this deeply personal episode, I talk about the hidden danger of "performance parenting" and shares my own confessions about falling into this trap. In this episode you'll discover: Why it's biblical for kids to want to please parents  The research behind helicopter, lawnmower, and intrusive parenting How sports culture drives performance-based love in Christian homes My honest mistakes in homeschooling and competitive gymnastics Practical ways to love unconditionally while maintaining expectations How to safely push kids out of their comfort zone Whether you're navigating kids' sports, homeschooling decisions, or simply trying to raise confident children who know they're loved no matter what, this episode offers both biblical wisdom and real-world application. If you've ever caught yourself being prouder of what your kids DO than who they ARE, this wake-up call is for you. Connect with Lauren: Get "Unshakable Kids" book: https://amzn.to/40GgrXg Website: https://inspired-motherhood.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspired.motherhood/