Making a list is simple enough. For Sherry, a lot of the work of Step 8 was in becoming willing to make amends. She shares how she had to forgive the people she had harmed before she was ready to approach them to make her own amends. Sherry found her way from AA to Al-Anon when her children were teenagers. She shares what each program gives her and how she relied on both to find her way through grieving and eventual healing after losing one of her children. ‘In the Webster’s dictionary, [amends] means change. And that was true for me. It was necessary for me to forgive in order to change. I had to forgive those people. That’s why I talk about forgiveness a lot… I can look back and see I’m not that person any more. I have changed.’ Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.