Summary

In this powerful episode, Trent shares his emotional journey on the day of his abuser's sentencing. He reflects on the impact of domestic violence, the challenges faced in the courtroom, and the importance of reading his victim impact statement. The conversation delves into the healing process, community support, and the ongoing fight for accountability in cases of abuse. Trent's story is one of resilience, strength, and the determination to reclaim his life after trauma.

Takeaways

Today was sentencing day for my abuser.

I didn't even really want to go to bed.

I won't be reading it out because it's not my words.

I refuse to be your victim anymore.

I stand here today making this statement because I know in my heart I'm owed this.

You made me feel worthless.

I broke free just in time.

I have stayed committed to fulfilling my responsibilities.

I never want to hear from you again.

I hope you're in there in fear.

Chapters

00:00 Sentencing Day Reflections

04:14 Courtroom Dynamics and Legal Proceedings

06:43 The Impact Statement: A Personal Journey

09:12 The Aftermath of Abuse and Healing

11:41 Finding Strength and Moving Forward

19:04 The Haunting Memories of Abuse

21:41 Breaking Free from Control

24:05 The Fight for Accountability

26:04 Rebuilding Life After Trauma

27:15 Navigating the Legal System

33:35 Empathy and Healing

36:03 A New Beginning

39:57 Introduction to Find Our Wild Podcast

Keywords

domestic violence, victim impact statement, court, healing, activism, community support, personal journey, mental health, trauma, accountability

In this episode of the Find Our World podcast, hosts Loz and Trent delve into the complexities of mental health, sharing personal stories of struggle, resilience, and healing. They discuss the impact of family dynamics, relationships, and personal growth on mental well-being.

Takeaways

🦋Introduction to Mental Health: Lauren Jane introduces the topic, highlighting its significance in the Find My Freedom program.

🦋Personal Stories: Both hosts share their experiences with mental health challenges, including family violence, substance use, and the journey to stability.

🦋Healing and Therapy: The discussion covers various therapeutic approaches, from traditional therapy to holistic practices like breathwork and trauma coaching.

🦋Importance of Support Systems: The role of doctors, therapists, and supportive friends in navigating mental health issues.

🦋No Contact Strategy: Lauren Jane emphasizes the benefits of reducing contact with toxic individuals for mental health

mental health, domestic violence, healing, therapy, self-care, personal growth, abuse recovery, Find My Wild, emotional well-being, support systems

In this episode, Loz and Trent discuss their personal experiences navigating the legal and court systems, particularly in the context of family law. They share insights on building a case, the importance of documentation, and the role of mediation. The conversation also covers the selection of lawyers, the realities of legal aid, and the financial implications of legal proceedings. They emphasize the need for thorough preparation for court and the mindset required on court days. The episode concludes with a reflection on the harsh realities of the legal system and the importance of mental health throughout the process.

Takeaways

🦋Legal proceedings can be soul-destroying and exhausting.

🦋Document everything to build a strong case.

🦋 Mediation can be effective, but not always appropriate.

🦋Choosing the right lawyer is crucial; interview them like a boss.

🦋Legal aid can provide valuable support; don't dismiss it.

🦋Financial implications of legal proceedings can be significant.

🦋Preparation for court is key; keep all paperwork organized.

🦋Mindset on court day can impact your experience.

🦋The legal system often treats individuals as numbers.

🦋Children's well-being should be prioritized in custody arrangements.

legal proceedings, court system, family law, mediation, building a case, legal aid, lawyer selection, court preparation, mindset, mental health

In this episode of the Find Our Wild podcast, hosts Loz and Trent share their personal experiences as survivors of domestic violence, discussing the challenges they faced in rebuilding their lives, particularly in terms of finances and legal considerations. They advocate for Claire's Law, which aims to protect individuals from domestic violence by allowing them to inquire about their partner's history. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community support, financial independence, and the need for legal preparedness, including creating wills and changing records after leaving an abusive relationship.

Takeaways

The podcast aims to provide a raw and authentic perspective on domestic violence.

Advocacy for Claire's Law is crucial for protecting potential victims.

Financial independence is essential when leaving an abusive relationship.

Creating a will is important for legal protection after leaving an abuser.

Community support can significantly aid in the recovery process.

It's okay to prioritize your well-being and do your best in tough situations.

Understanding the legal system is vital for survivors of domestic violence.

Budgeting and financial planning are key to rebuilding life post-abuse.

Survivors should not feel guilty about their financial situations.

Healing from trauma takes time and support.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Campaign Support

06:06 Understanding Claire's Law and Its Importance

16:34 Financial Challenges After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

41:55 Preparing for Independence

45:18 Financial Strategies for Leaving

48:36 Navigating Financial Assistance Programs

54:13 Understanding Financial Support Options

01:02:38 The Importance of Record Keeping

01:09:02 Rebuilding Life After Leaving

01:13:15 Introduction to Find Our Wild Podcast

Check out Find My Wild here FIND MY WILD

See ya next week..

Loz and Trent 🦋

In this episode, Loz and Trent discuss the complexities of leaving an abusive relationship and the journey of rebuilding life afterward. They share personal experiences, focusing on the emotional turmoil, the importance of having a safety plan, and the challenges of co-parenting. The conversation emphasizes the need for support systems and the reality of post-separation abuse, while also providing insights into the Find My Freedom program designed to help others navigate similar situations

Takeaways

🦋Experience is unique and you need to go through it.

🦋You can't do it by yourself; support is essential.

🦋The journey of leaving is part of your life story.

🦋You need to be at peace with your decisions.

🦋The first four months after leaving can be the hardest.

🦋Having a housing plan is crucial when leaving an abuser.

🦋Communication with an abuser can be challenging and stressful.

🦋Stress is a normal part of the leaving process.

🦋Children should not be punished for adult decisions.

🦋Support from friends and family is vital during this time. 

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Leaving and Rebuilding

04:14 The Journey of Leaving: Personal Experiences

07:12 The First Four Months After Leaving

10:05 Post-Separation Abuse and Its Impact

12:41 Housing and Safety Plans

15:20 Managing Contact and Communication

18:23 Coping with Stress and Emotional Turmoil

21:11 Visitations and Co-Parenting Challenges

23:14 Conclusion and Support for Others

59:49 Introduction to Find Our Wild Podcast

Check out the work we do FIND MY WILD

Love Loz and Trent 🦋

In this episode of the Find My Wild podcast, hosts Loz and Trent share their personal journeys as survivors of domestic violence and abuse. They discuss the challenges of navigating the justice system, the impact of abuse on identity, and the importance of community support in the healing process. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-discovery, coping mechanisms, and setting boundaries with abusers. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to embrace their wild, authentic selves and to believe in their ability to rebuild their lives after trauma.

Takeaways

This podcast is a raw authentic version of living in, leaving and rebuilding from domestic violence and abuse.

We want to normalize the feelings that are in, leaving and rebuilding from abuse.

You have a right to share your lived experiences.

Healing is not a linear process; it involves ups and downs.

Community support is crucial in the healing journey.

It's important to confront your abuser and set boundaries.

Self-discovery is a vital part of recovery.

Coping mechanisms vary for everyone; find what works for you.

You deserve to live your best life, despite your past.

Take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Journey

03:25 Navigating the Aftermath of Abuse

06:50 Finding Your Voice and Healing

10:18 The Struggles of Rebuilding Life

17:30 Facing Financial Hardships

22:53 The Impact of Past Relationships

28:04 The Ongoing Battle with the Past

32:10 Creating Safety in Community Engagement

34:26 Navigating Mental and Emotional Health

36:43 Spiritual and Physical Well-being

39:23 Healing from Trauma and Abuse

46:41 Building Resilience and Self-Worth

55:01 Finding Your Wild and Authentic Self

Check out Find My Wild here: FIND MY WILD

See ya next week,

Loz and Trent 🦋

In this episode, Loz and Trent share their personal experiences as survivors of domestic violence and abuse. They discuss the complexities of relationships marked by love bombing, control, and emotional manipulation, leading to physical violence. The conversation highlights the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship, the impact of financial abuse, and the emotional toll it takes on survivors. They emphasize the importance of support systems and the journey towards healing and recovery. This conversation delves into the harrowing experiences of domestic violence, the emotional turmoil that follows, and the journey towards healing and empowerment. The speakers share personal stories of abuse, the complexities of leaving an abusive relationship, and the ongoing challenges faced in rebuilding their lives. They emphasize the importance of support systems, self-love, and finding purpose after trauma, while also addressing the societal stigma surrounding domestic violence.

Takeaways

The podcast aims to provide a raw and authentic perspective on domestic violence and abuse.

Love bombing can create a false sense of security in relationships.

Control often escalates once a partner moves in together.

Physical violence can emerge after a period of emotional manipulation.

Survivors often face challenges in seeking help and support.

Financial abuse is a significant aspect of many abusive relationships.

Emotional abuse can be as damaging as physical violence.

Leaving an abuser can feel like overcoming an addiction.

Support systems are crucial for recovery and healing.

Survivors often experience guilt and shame for returning to abusive partners. Confronting the truth about abuse is essential for healing.

The aftermath of violence can leave lasting scars, both physical and emotional.

Breaking free from control requires immense courage and support.

Planning an escape from an abusive situation is a critical step.

Rebuilding life after abuse involves rediscovering self-worth and purpose.

Finding a supportive community can aid in the healing process.

Healing is a journey that takes time and patience.

Navigating professional life post-abuse can be challenging but necessary.

Empowerment comes from sharing one's story and helping others.

Self-love and acceptance are crucial in the recovery process.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Trent's Story

03:55 The Beginning of a Relationship

06:23 Signs of Control and Manipulation

08:42 The First Incident of Abuse

14:48 The Aftermath and Separation

18:40 Reconciliation and Financial Abuse

21:45 The Cycle of Abuse and Court Battles

22:15 The Impact of Financial Abuse

23:10 Mental Health Struggles and Recovery

25:51 Navigating Mental Health and Medication

26:58 The Struggles of an Abusive Relationship

29:43 The Aftermath of Leaving an Abuser

32:22 Understanding Emotional and Physical Abuse

35:40 The Breaking Point: A Night of Violence

45:48 The Escape: Finding Freedom from Abuse

48:27 Navigating Personal Trauma and Humor

51:20 Breaking Generational Cycles

54:19 Rebuilding After Abuse

58:55 The Complexity of Moving On

01:01:58 Creating Supportive Communities

01:03:52 The Find My Freedom Program

01:09:06 The Journey of Healing and Growth

01:11:05 Gratitude and Acknowledgment

01:17:08 Introduction to Find Our Wild Podcast

Keywords

domestic violence, abuse recovery, love bombing, emotional abuse, financial abuse, survivor stories, mental health, healing journey, relationship dynamics, support systems, domestic violence, abuse recovery, emotional healing, personal growth, resilience, trauma, support systems, mental health, empowerment, self-love.

In this episode of the Find Our Wild podcast, hosts Loz and Trent share their personal journeys as survivors of domestic violence and abuse. They discuss the importance of community support, the challenges of navigating post-separation abuse, and the healing process. The conversation highlights the dynamics of domestic violence, the impact of loyalty in relationships, and the role of the justice system. The hosts emphasize the need for open discussions about these topics and the importance of sharing stories to foster understanding and healing.

Takeaways

This podcast is a raw authentic version of living in, leaving, and rebuilding from domestic violence.

We want to normalize the feelings associated with domestic violence and abuse.

Domestic violence and abuse happens to all humans, regardless of gender.

The importance of community support in healing from trauma cannot be overstated.

Triggers can re-happen at any stage, so it's crucial to have the right tools.

Domestic violence doesn't discriminate; it affects everyone.

You either work with the energy of healing or it can consume you.

Loyalty can be both a strength and a weakness in relationships.

Sharing stories is vital for healing and understanding.

You are brave, you are strong, and you are loved.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Find Our Wild Podcast

02:24 Sharing Personal Journeys of Domestic Violence

05:24 The Importance of Community and Support

08:41 Navigating Post-Separation Abuse

11:29 Healing and Moving Forward

14:36 The Role of the Justice System

17:27 Understanding Domestic Violence Dynamics

20:47 The Impact of Loyalty and Relationships

23:31 The Journey of Rebuilding Life

26:23 The Importance of Sharing Stories

29:47 Future Directions for the Podcast

32:42 Closing Thoughts and Affirmations

Keywords

domestic violence, abuse, healing, community support, survivor stories, justice system, personal journeys, emotional health, rebuilding life, Find My Wild

Welcome to the Find OUR Wild podcast — a raw, real, and radically honest space for survivors and supporters navigating life after domestic and family violence.

Join your hosts Loz, Founder of Find My Wild, and Trent, Survivor-Led Manager, as they dive deep into the truth that healing isn’t linear — and that no one is immune.

This is where we share the unfiltered stories, the hard-earned lessons, the breakdowns and breakthroughs — all in the name of showing you that you're not alone.

Together, we’ll reclaim our stories, rewire our beliefs, and rise in our power.

Because healing isn't just possible — it's happening.
And you? You are brave, you are strong, and you are so deeply loved in this space.

Welcome to the wild. Let’s ROAR!!!!

You are brave, You are Strong and You are so loved in our space...

Love Loz and Trent 🤍🦋

This podcast episode of Find My Wild explores the journey of rebuilding life after domestic violence. Lauren Jane shares personal experiences, reflections on Christmas, and the challenges faced during the healing process. Emphasising the importance of community support, self-discovery, and empowerment, the conversation highlights the transformative power of sharing stories and aligning one's energy towards positive change.

Find My Wild is dedicated to helping individuals rebuild their lives post domestic violence.

Christmas can be a difficult time for survivors of domestic violence.

The journey of healing involves facing challenges and embracing self-discovery.

Community support plays a crucial role in recovery from abuse.

It's important to acknowledge the pressures that come with holidays like Christmas.

Rebuilding life after abuse requires resilience and determination.

Self-worth can be significantly impacted by past relationships.

Manifestation and positive thinking can aid in personal growth.

Healing is not a linear process; it involves ups and downs.

Sharing stories can foster healing and connection within the community.

Chapters

00:00 Reflections on Christmas and Simplicity

04:26 Navigating Life After a Relationship

13:01 Struggles of Financial Instability

21:55 Manifestation and New Beginnings

29:26 Finding Purpose and Community

36:35 From Rock Bottom to Empowerment

41:08 Introduction and Acknowledgment of Sponsors

41:36 The Impact of Corporate Sponsorship on Survivors

42:05 How to Support the 12-Stage Journey

42:28 Introduction to Find My Wild Podcast

42:56 Community Engagement and Connection

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Check out the ⁠FIND MY WILD WEBSITE ⁠ for all of the ways we help and how we can help you..

See you soon,

Loz 🦋🤍

This conversation delves into the journey of healing from domestic violence, emphasizing the importance of community support, self-compassion, and resilience. The speakers share personal experiences of abuse, the complexities of grief, and the transformative power of sharing stories. They highlight the significance of recognizing one's strength and the necessity of seeking help and healing after trauma. The discussion also touches on the challenges of navigating relationships post-abuse and the journey towards thriving after surviving.

FIND MY WILD WEBSITE

Takeaways

Find My Wild is dedicated to helping survivors of domestic violence.

Sharing stories is a powerful form of healing.

Coercive control can escalate into severe abuse over time.

It's important to document evidence of abuse for validation.

Grief and guilt are common feelings after losing an abuser.

Healing takes time and often requires hitting rock bottom.

Community support is crucial for recovery.

Self-compassion is essential in the healing process.

You can thrive after surviving trauma.

It's vital to recognize your worth and strength.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to a Survivor's Journey

03:43 The Early Signs of Coercive Control

07:45 Escalation of Abuse and Gaslighting

13:59 The Turning Point: Physical Abuse Begins

20:05 Confrontation and the Need for Change

25:27 A Tragic Ending: The Loss of a Partner

31:53 Navigating Grief and Healing

36:05 Thriving After Surviving: A New Beginning

37:28 The Healing Journey Begins

41:06 Navigating Life's Challenges

44:52 Financial Struggles and Injustice

48:37 Finding Freedom and Purpose

55:26 Empowerment and Self-Worth

01:00:29 Redefining Life After Trauma

01:07:42 Embracing Authenticity and Kindness

01:13:16 trueCrime-transition-high.wav

01:14:33 trueCrime-transition-high.wav

01:14:39 New Chapter

In this conversation, Loz and Michelle discuss their experiences with domestic violence and abuse. They share their personal stories of leaving abusive relationships and the challenges they faced in seeking justice. They emphasize the importance of healing and rebuilding their lives after trauma. They also highlight the need for support systems and the flaws in existing systems that fail to protect survivors. Overall, their conversation sheds light on the journey of healing and the resilience of survivors. The conversation highlights the failures of the system in addressing domestic violence and supporting survivors. It emphasizes the importance of understanding why these failures occur and advocating for change. The discussion also touches on the need for self-care and healing for survivors, as well as the impact of domestic violence on children and families. The conversation ends with a call to break the silence and share stories to create awareness and drive change.

Takeaways

* Sharing personal stories of domestic violence and abuse can be healing and empowering for survivors.

* Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, and it is important to provide support to all survivors.

* The journey of healing and rebuilding after leaving an abusive relationship takes time and effort in various aspects of life, including physical health, mental health, and connections with others.

* Seeking justice can be a challenging process, and survivors may face obstacles and victim-blaming from various systems.

* Support systems and organisations play a crucial role in providing resources and assistance to survivors of domestic violence and abuse. The system often fails to address domestic violence and support survivors, leading to dangerous situations and lack of justice.

* Understanding why these failures occur and advocating for change is crucial to improving the system.

* Self-care and healing are important for survivors to rebuild their lives and navigate the legal process.

* Domestic violence has a significant impact on children and families, and their well-being should be prioritized.

* Sharing stories and breaking the silence is essential to create awareness and drive change in addressing domestic violence.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

04:07 Sharing Personal Stories and Future Plans

05:06 Recognizing and Escaping Domestic Violence

10:20 The Cycle of Abuse and Coercive Control

14:19 Balancing Justice and Rebuilding Life

22:13 The Importance of Holistic Healing

24:09 Seeking Support and Taking Action

27:35 Empowering Through Education and Advocacy

28:04 The Flaws and Failures of Support Systems

31:48 The Importance of Self-Care

34:51 Survivors Falling Through the Cracks

39:26 Navigating Inconsistencies

42:05 Checking Everything: Don't Believe Anything

47:50 Coercive Control: The Beginning of Abuse

52:25 Sharing Stories: Empowering Survivors

54:12 New Chapter

55:01 High (Long)

Keywords

#domestic violence #abuse #healing #rebuilding #justice #support systems, #survivors #domestic violence #system failures #support #survivors #self-care #healing #impact on children #awareness #change

Darcy joins us on Find My Wild for Part 2 of her story..

So many questions and statements were made after we shared on her journey on Part 1, so here we are sharing Part 2..

Remember; If you are not living in that exact circumstance, then you just don't get it.

Listen with love and be kind always..

You are brave,

You are strong and

You are so loved..

Love, Loz

Join Loz as she interviews 1 of the beautiful members of the 3 that make up the @coercive_control_awareness instagram page.

These women have created a community where their bio reads "Survivors bringing awareness to the series of dangerous + life threatening male behavioural patterns affecting women and children"..

Join Loz and Hearts of Purple Managing Director Michelle... Hearts of Purple was established in 2017 following the tragic murder of Teresa Bradford. On January 31st, 2017, Teresa’s ex-husband, David Bradford, broke into her home while she and their four children were sleeping. After killing Teresa, he committed suicide, leaving their children orphaned. In the months that followed, as the community supported Teresa's children and family, it became evident that the existing system had significant gaps that needed to be addressed to better protect victims of domestic violence. This realization led to the formation of the non-profit organization Hearts of Purple. The organization is run by a dedicated volunteer committee composed of individuals from various backgrounds, many of whom have personal experiences of abuse and recovery. You can support Michelle here ➡️ https://www.heartsofpurple.org/donations/ You can purchase raffle tickets here 👢

https://www.raffletix.com.au/

You can involved with the purple bin🚮https://www.heartsofpurple.org/purple-bins/