In this raw and resonant conversation, transformation coach Heather Vickery joins Becky to talk about burnout, invisible labor, and why choosing yourself is a radical act of resistance. They unpack the emotional and physical toll of carrying the weight of the world—especially for women and non-binary folks socialized to perform and produce. Heather shares how retreats (from solo hotel stays to facilitated group gatherings) can serve as powerful tools for reconnection, rest, and radical reclamation.

She breaks down the science behind healing modalities like NLP and Human Design, and why well-resourced women are dangerous to the systems that aim to keep us small. If you've ever struggled to give yourself permission to rest, this episode will remind you why your liberation matters—and how rest isn’t just self-care, it’s strategy.

Heather Vickery’s website: vickeryandco.com
Costa Rica Retreat (Jan 21–26, 2026): https://vickeryandco.com/costa-rica

📝 Discussed in this Episode

• Why invisible labor leads to burnout—and why that’s by design
• The myth of the “good girl” and how it traps women in unsustainable patterns
• Heather’s journey from conformity to radical self-trust
• How retreats help disrupt autopilot and create space for healing
• The power of NLP, Human Design, and somatic tools for personal transformation
• Why resourced women are a threat to patriarchal, capitalist systems
• The difference between a vacation and a retreat
• Tips for deciding what kind of retreat you need based on your season of life
• The importance of investing in yourself without guilt
• How retreating helps you return more whole, grounded, and effective

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