In this first conversation on perfectionist recovery, we unpack about what it means to live fully as a fallible, complicated human — and why rejecting the “hard half” of life only makes us suffer more. We’ll look at how to:
Stop weaponizing your pain and discomfort
Hold space for negative emotions without letting them run the show
Start embracing your more challenging qualities as part of what makes you most lovable
Truly have your own back
The invitation is simple: let all of you be here. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s the only way to live a full, rich life that actually feels like yours.
Intentional thoughts to foster:
I am amazing when I’m up, I’m amazing when I’m down
I am lovable when I’m on good behavior
I am lovable when I’m on bad behavior
All of me is acceptable
All of me is allowed
I am worth supporting
I am easy to root for
Enjoy the recording of my recent masterclass The Joy Code and the story of how I’ve used this 4-part process to transform some of the toughest experiences of my life.
Life isn’t meant to be easy. Sometimes worry feels like the only reasonable response. There’s no way around loss, conflict, disappointment, and change. But hardship has an inherent value. And fear and worry are optional…
In this episode of Feel Better for Good, you’ll find that creating joy isn’t about ignoring the hard stuff. It’s a new way of meeting it. The Joy Code is a framework for moving directly through struggle with more ease, peace, and resilience. Instead of getting swallowed by worry or resistance, you’ll learn exactly how to stay grounded, soften into the moment, and find real joy in being human—even when it hurts.
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What’s really standing between you and the life you want? It’s not a lack of worth, talent, or destiny — it’s the toxic emotional loops running quietly in the background.
In this episode, you'll learn about the 3 most destructive emotional patterns and how these hidden cycles drain your energy, distort your focus, and block aligned action. More importantly, you’ll learn how to break free and reclaim your power.
Here’s what you’ll discover inside:
What the Unholy Trinity is — and how it quietly takes over your thoughts and emotions
Why toxic loops feel so convincing (and how to spot them before they spiral)
A simple practice for observing your thoughts without judgment or attachment
How to “hang up” unhelpful thought patterns and choose something more aligned
The surprising truth: it really can be just one decision that shifts everything
By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to recognize toxic loops as they arise and the confidence to choose a different path — one that supports your energy, your clarity, and your deepest desires.
Resources:
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How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you eat… a whole airplane? Believe it or not, someone actually did — and their approach has everything to do with how you can stop overthinking and finally solve your own “impossible” problems.
In this episode, I take you on a fun but practical journey into simplifying the struggles in your life that feel overwhelming. You’ll discover how to break problems down into manageable pieces, spot the exact trigger that’s setting you off, and turn spirals of overthinking into simple, doable next steps.
If life feels like one giant Rubik’s cube you can’t solve, this episode will help you put down the stress and pick up clarity — no heavy machinery required.
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So often you say you want something… but once you start to making moves, resistance shows up. Fear. Doubt. Self-sabotage. Suddenly, you’ve talked yourself out of your own dream.
This episode is about breaking that pattern and unlocking your YES—the kind that clears the way for you to finally receive what you desire.
Inside, you’ll learn:
The sneaky ways you might be red-lighting yourself without noticing 🚨
Why objections pop up the second you move toward what you want (and why that’s normal)
How to short circuit self-sabotage – and stop fighting with your brain!
Greenlight Questions you can ask yourself to stay aligned with your desires
How to build the capacity to receive so fully that what you want feels natural, inevitable, and deeply yours
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Learn an incredibly valuable tool for creating more opportunity for you as you work toward your next goal, to lighten your load on the journey and usher into your life the very thing you want. This is manifestation 2.0 -- in equation form!
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Why don't we talk more about mental wellness? Today's special episode explores the intersection of wellness and wholeness.
It includes a practice that will help you easily create more opportunities in your day -- and in your life -- to experience deep wellness and fulfillment.
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In this special episode you'll learn about my 4-step Joy Code for creating more ease, lightness, and space in your life. You do not want to miss this one!
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In this episode you'll learn the difference between the energy of GETTING and the energy of HAVING.
This knowledge will help you understand how to fend off self-sabotage before, during, and after you get the object of your heart's desire. Enjoy!
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Episode *: How to Believe in Yourself
Episode 72: Struggling with Self-Sabotage? Here's How to Fix It.
Enjoy this special recording from my Turnaround Tuesday live training series. Today we're talking about how to make stress your b!*ch...
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This is the rally cry for that small whisper inside you.
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How are you tending to the 3 most important relationships in our life? This week's episode may surprise you...
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*WARNING* This podcast will change your relationship to pain forever.
Listen to my episode on Clean Pain v. Dirty Pain HERE
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The way you talk to yourself is everything...
On this episode I teach you how to identify and snap yourself out of destructive thinking loops using 5 powerful questions for discernment.
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This week on the podcast I teach you my 2-step protocol for getting unstuck. *Listen for special limited time offer for my community members (including you!)*
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On this special live episode, I geek out hard over the last best book I read (is it a banger!!). PLUS I teach you a simple but radical tool you can use today to pull yourself out of a rut quickly and effectively.
It’s called Lighthouse Thinking.
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What to do when the wire brush of doubt starts scraping...
Today's podcast is a lesson on how to move past self-doubt (along with any of its myriad attendant emotions) and into belief and self-confidence.
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Wondering why you keep getting close to what you want but then it slips out of reach - or you get what you want but you're not able to really enjoy it?
Today we're unpacking a principle that can either LIMIT or EXPAND your ability to receive and enjoy success, depending on how you use it...
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This one's personal...
In this special episode I walk you through a winning recipe of thoughts and strategies to help you restore respect and balance in any relationship you're ever challenged by.
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We all want results, but the way you do it matters... what good is success if we can't enjoy the process?
To celebrate the launch of my signature group coaching program on this episode, I share a new way to think about goals that will both speed up your results AND make life a lot more fun in the meantime.
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