In this episode I sit down with Chris Miller—mechanic-turned “Fatherhood Architect,” coach, and founder of Mechanic’s Garage—for a real, practical talk on modern fatherhood.

We unpack the chaos and beauty of blended families, why “respect” is earned not assumed, and how dads can design their own blueprint instead of repeating (or rebelling against) their upbringing. Chris shares his “connection before correction” mantra and the three things every kid craves—feeling seen, safe, and heard. The guys dive into boundaries that unite (use we and I, not you), putting marriage first so kids feel the ripple of love, and Chris’s killer car analogies: maintain your engine (body), computers (mind), suspension (heart), and fuel system (spirit)—and be a man worthy of “high-octane” love. They close with honest talk on modeling growth, letting kids witness your repairs, and taking the first step: you go first.

Key Takeaways

• Blended family basics: set roles early with open, ongoing communication.

• Don’t copy or invert your dad—author your own blueprint.

• Lead with connection, not correction; listen between the words.

• Kids remember how you made them feel: seen, safe, heard.

• Protect the marriage: spouse first, kids second—love flows downstream.

• Do your maintenance: body, mind, heart, spirit—be “high-octane” worthy.