What Do You Say To Someone Who Lost A Child
Mae Peralta: You know, that I would feel guilty, because your initial reaction to the whole thing - well, if I were to be a mom, how can I be a mom, if I can’t protect the one thing [that] I’m supposed to protect?Bernie Rosquites: Right.
Emirick Haro: Yeah.Mae: One friend of mine was like, “Oh, you’ll have other kids!”
Bernie and Emirick: Oh.
Mae: I mean, what makes you think that this one didn’t matter, somehow?
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Bernie: Parenting isn’t easy! It’s challenging and frustrating, but it’s also rewarding and inspiring! We just need a few reminders. Parents, dads, mamas -
you’re not alone - I’m Bernie Rosquites.
Emirick: And I’m Emirick Haro. We are the tired, but inspired moms, and you’re listening to the
Faith and Family podcast. A Christian family community that aims to promote Christian values for every phase of your family life.
Bernie: You know, losing a loved one, it isn’t easy. I know - I recently lost my
mom last October, and the grief can be… uh, quite honestly, I have no words for it. It just, it leaves you numb! And you find yourself in this space of trying not to question: why? And you want to crawl in a hole, but you can’t. And reality is you have no other option but to move forward, painfully, without the one you lost, and you have to allow time to help you heal.
Emirick: I lost my dad when I turned 21. It was something that happened suddenly, so it… I wasn’t able to
prepare myself for it. But, honestly, I don’t know how I would’ve prepared myself if I had a clue that it would’ve happened anyway. Life, immediately after his passing, was difficult, it was sad, and awkward. My friends would tippy toe around me because they didn’t know how to support me. And I would tippy toe around my mom because I didn’t know how to support her. So, what’s the best way to support someone who has just lost a loved one?
Bernie: So, today, Mae Peralta will be joining us on this podcast. She lost her baby girl at 24 weeks, due to complications. She lost her girl on November 25th, 2013. But today - she is blessed with one daughter, Hope, and a pair of some amazing twins, Sam and Lily! But she is still healing from that loss, and that’s absolutely understandable. It takes time and prayer and some encouragement. Please stick around to the end of the podcast because Brother Jeff De Guia will tell us what the Bible has to say about grief and what we should have hope in.
Mae is on with us to talk about the best way to support someone who has had a
miscarriage, or has experienced loss. Hello, Miss Mae! How are you?
Mae: Hi! Hi, moms! Thank you for having me!
Bernie: We’re glad to have you here! So, Mae, I know you’ve got 3 kids, girl!
Mae: Yes, I do!
Bernie: Yeees girl! A work from home husband, and a dog to take care of! I mean, just saying that, I’m already tired. What’s that like? Walk us through your day! Any day!
Mae: Let me give you an example of the day: I would wake up in the morning, get my daughter, Hope, ready for school. And even though her school is only in front of the laptop at home, it takes her literally 20 minutes to get up and...
