In this episode, Furkhan is joined by Emma Lyons, the founder of Trauma Matrix, to explore the pervasive and toxic nature of shame, especially its impact on women. Emma shares her personal journey of overcoming childhood shame and narcissistic family dynamics, emphasizing that shame is a tool of control rooted in many societal structures. The discussion delves into the distinction between shame and guilt, the cultural factors driving shame, and practical steps to release oneself from shame's grip. Emma highlights how shame affects various aspects of life, from addiction to personal relationships, and provides listeners with actionable insights to reclaim their freedom from shame. Emma Lyons is a trauma-informed healer and founder of The Trauma Matrix, where she helps women break up with the shame voice that’s been sabotaging their success, relationships, and visibility for years. After studying law and international human rights, Emma turned away from a life path that looked good on paper but felt like slow death — and spent the next decade deep in the healing world. Despite all the therapy, yoga, mindset work, and energy practices, she still found herself stuck in loops of self-erasure, burnout, and invisibility… until she uncovered the more profound truth: she’d internalized a narcissistic system of control, and it was running her from the inside out. Today, Emma helps high-functioning, heart-led women dismantle that inner narcissist, the shame voice that humiliates, controls, and impersonates them, so they can reclaim clarity, power, and nervous system freedom. If your audience is ready for truth bombs, psychic jailbreaks, and the missing piece no one else is talking about, Emma delivers. https://www.instagram.com/trauma.matrix/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/emma-lyons-traumamatrix/ https://www.facebook.com/trauma.matrix https://www.youtube.com/@trauma.matrix https://www.tiktok.com/@trauma.matrix https://traumamatrix.substack.com/  And here's the gift: https://tinyurl.com/nottodaynarc 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:38 Emma's Background and Work 01:57 Understanding Shame and Its Impact 04:11 Narcissism and Societal Structures 07:50 Shame in Cultural Contexts 10:13 Breaking Free from Shame 11:58 Shame and Addiction 13:02 Shame in Relationships 20:56 Shame in Irish Culture 25:25 Global Perspectives on Shame 27:53 The Cycle of Shame Among Women 29:54 Shame in Men and Narcissism 32:25 Breaking Free from Shame: The B-R-E-A-K Model 42:16 The Role of Religion and Spirituality in Shame 44:37 Shame and Societal Control 49:33 Final Thoughts and Resources Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices