Are You Behaving in Ways that Are Getting You the Opposite of What You Are Seeking?
Emily defines assertive communication as self-advocacy. Meg defines her communication style as the clarity and honesty that begins internally so she can be more steady in stating her needs. They offer how they work with each of their styles and explore “mean girl” culture, how to get attuned to ourselves first, and how not to get triggered in our responses.
“If you don’t talk about it, your behavior will show it.”
“How do we emotionally manipulate to get what we want in passive-aggressive ways?”
“There are energetics and tensions people can feel behind your communication.”
“How much is my responsibility in this conversation?”
“What is the difference between choosing versus feeling compelled as an obligation?”
“Am I doing this from a place of worth instead of having to prove, defend, or beg instead of connection, attunement, or mutuality?”
“With increased clarity and simplicity comes confident authenticity.”
“The simplicity comes when you stop focusing on analyzing their behavior and putt it back on aligning with your values.”
“Keeping the peace doesn’t work because we suppress our needs to play nice.”
“Are these MY facts or THE facts? What am I making this mean?”
“Our minds can easily make up a victim/villain story and then offer up ‘fake conviction’ with blame.”
“Good communication asks a question instead of assuming. It comes from a space of curiosity instead of blame.”
Original Art by Meg Miller
References from the episode:
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For further exploration, we loved this book:
Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, Kerry Patterson, & Laura Roppe
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