Using The Lovers Tarot card and the Eight of Swords, we chat about how to need to be wanted or needed by others can stop us from loving ourselves fully.
I chat a little about my own experiences and how I overcame them and touch on how The Lovers and the Eight of Swords can help us better understand this need and where it comes from.
Prompts for Episode 45
Prompt 1: Ok so now for the good part, the journal prompts. We’re going to start with the biggy, The Lovers. I want you to write down all the behaviours you exhibit when you are needing to be wanted. Whether it’s during a crush on someone or even if it’s needing to be wanted by friends and family, it doesn’t have to be romantic in nature. Just think about what kinds of unhealthy habits you have to try and get attention or force a connection with someone.
Prompt 2: Next, write down any part of your life that you have let slip. Maybe you used to be mega-active but now you hardly move off the sofa. Maybe you used to be more social but the pandemic took that away from you and you just can’t seem to get back into the swing of things.
Prompt 3: Take a look at all of those areas you have let slip. What plans could you make or actions could you take to get back into them? Don’t put too much on yourself too soon, baby steps are best. So, what small shifts or changes could you make to start getting those cogs turning again?
Prompt 4: Finally, I want you to do a little ritual for yourself. I want you to take all those bad or unhealthy habits you have when that desperate need to be wanted arises, and I want you to put it into a bowl of water. Swoosh it around and watch the ink run and the paper disintegrate.
Then, write yourself a self-dedication contract. You can find a template for this in the show notes. Commit to spending more time and energy loving yourself, nurturing your authentic self, likes and just being exactly who you are without any desire or need to change in order to make people want you.
Download your self-dedication contract here
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