Welcome to Elevator Systems! Therapist Joe Berger joins Dixie Vandersluys and Katie White to think about how Bowen family systems theory is useful in the dating world. 

Joe Berger is a therapist who works with individuals, couples, and families and previously worked for several years in community mental health. He received a Masters in Social Work from the University of Vermont in 2012, and has completed two years of postgraduate training at the Bowen Center in Washington. He is currently a faculty member at the Vermont Center for Family Studies.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• A Bowen theory approach to dating emphasizes focusing on oneself rather than the other person
• Being clear about one's goals and guidelines in dating helps maintain authenticity and self-awareness
• The influence of societal and familial expectations on dating behaviours and relationship choices
• Keeping a sense of fun and curiosity is important in the dating process, alongside serious considerations
• Examples shared from personal experience, clinical cases, and the entertainment world
  

Counsellors, parents, and anyone navigating the dating world will find useful ideas for further thinking in this episode.

Recommended Resources:

• The Murray Bowen Archives Project 
• Elevator Systems Seasons 1 & 2
• Dr. Jenny Brown: Growing Yourself Up
• Dr Ronald Richardson: Jane Austen’s Guide to Good Relationships
• Dr Kathleen Smith: Everything Isn’t Terrible
• Avrum Nadigel: Learning to Commit
• Avrum Nadigel: It Takes More than Love
• Esther Perel: Mating in Captivity 

New podcast episodes released every Tuesday this season—stay tuned as we explore relationships across the lifespan! 

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast is general information about Bowen family systems theory and is not considered the practice of counselling or therapy.  The information presented are the views of the people who say them. Any information used from this podcast is used at your own risk.