Can we truly experience love if we’ve never confronted our loops? In this episode, Dani sits down with Justin Scott (@cypher.j on TikTok, @this.cypher on Instagram), a wordsmith and cultural thinker who helps decode trauma, nervous system regulation, masculinity, and the emotional architecture of dating. Together, they explore whether love requires evidence, whether peace is mistaken for healing, and why silence is sometimes the loudest part of a relationship.

The conversation takes a nuanced look at how trauma patterns create loops that shape how we love, communicate, and cope. Justin offers a powerful framework for re-parenting through relationships, explaining why dating isn’t about avoiding grief but building co-regulation through emotional stamina, discernment, and shared tools.

Questions explored in this episode include:
What does a trauma-informed relationship look like?
How can you tell the difference between peace and suppression?
Why do some people crave “proof” of love while others just want to be held?
Can you build something real without first naming your emotional loops?
What’s the difference between dating for depth and dating for access?

This dialogue is not just about love and relationships, but about the systems—both internal and societal—that keep us stuck. Whether you’re rethinking faith, romance, community, or emotional health, this conversation offers a map and a mirror.

✦ About the Creator:
Justin Scott
Website: cypherj.substack.com
Instagram: @this.cypher
TikTok: @cypher.j