How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane - a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 - for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, fear, and silence. From navigating HIV stigma in South Africa to redefining what it means to love and live openly as a Black queer man, Phenyo shares the realities many never see. He talks about the micro-moments where visibility feels like both liberation and risk, the ongoing mental health journey, and the changing nature of relationships. This episode breaks down misconceptions around HIV, embraces identity with power and pride, and explores the courage it takes to challenge social norms. Phenyo also speaks candidly about the joys and challenges of dating while living openly with HIV, and the vital support LGBTQIA+ youth need beyond the usual “be yourself” message. Whether you’re living with HIV, part of the queer community, or an ally ready to support without shame or saviourism, this conversation is real, raw, and full of heart. In this episode: 00:34 Welcome to Don't Hold Back 00:50 Introducing Today's Guest 01:19 Catching Up After Years 02:07 The Snack Tradition - a Teaser 02:43 Living Positively with HIV 03:10 The Impact of Sharing My Story 05:24 Challenges of Public Disclosure 05:53 Personal Relationships and HIV 07:52 The Journey to Healing 10:03 Advocating for the Next Generation 13:04 Navigating Conversations About Safe Sex 15:35 Coming Out to Family 16:18 Navigating Safe Conversations 17:34 Seeking Help and Counseling 19:11 Finding Love and Disclosure 24:49 Rapid Fire Question Section 25:52 Addressing Stigma and Discrimination 30:04 Message to Young People and Parents 33:11 Final Thoughts and Farewell #DontHoldBackPodcast | #LivingPositively | #PhenyoMoletsane | #HIVAwareness | #LGBTQIAPlusSA | #BreakTheSilence | #DifferentFacesOfHIV