
This episode of the Don't Chuck It Up podcast features host Chuck and guest Kathryn Ely, a licensed professional counselor, attorney, and mother of three, who specializes in anxiety treatment and gained her expertise after realizing her own severe anxiety while in college. (https://courageouscourse.com/) The discussion focuses on social anxiety, which is defined as an intense worry about what others think of you, making new social situations feel uncomfortable. They address key myths about social anxiety, the first being the misconception that it is purely situational; instead, it stems from a negative self-perception that leads to projecting judgment onto others. The second myth is that one needs to feel confident before taking action, when the reality is the reverse: confidence follows action. The third myth is that avoidance improves anxiety, when in fact, avoidance acts as "steroids" for anxiety, making it stronger and shrinking one's life. Kathryn encourages listeners, particularly students facing college stress, to focus on courage and their personal values (their "why") as a compass to push past anxiety and avoidance, emphasizing that focusing on one's character and seeking connection with others is vital for mental well-being.