In this episode of Disordered, the guys tackle one of the most misunderstood concepts in anxiety recovery: healing. Sparked by a listener question about balancing relationships with anxiety recovery work, the hosts dive deep into what healing anxiety really means - and what it doesn't.
The Problem with "Healing" Language
Drew and Josh explore how the word "healing" can be problematic in anxiety recovery, often implying that people are broken and need fixing. They discuss how healing anxiety culture can keep people trapped in endless cycles of inward focus and compulsive self-improvement.
Real vs. Imaginary Healing
There is a difference between meaningful healing (like processing grief or trauma) versus the endless pursuit of healing anxiety symptoms. They emphasize that anxiety disorders often require learning and skill development rather than traditional healing approaches.
Living vs. Healing
A central theme emerges: in anxiety recovery, we don't heal to live - we live to heal. The hosts challenge the notion that extensive inner work must precede living your life, suggesting that engaging in meaningful activities IS the recovery process.
Timestamps:
4:30 - Why no one gets to define healing for you
8:00 - The "resource gathering" compulsion trap
13:40 - How healing language can keep you stuck
16:00 - The dangers of AI-driven anxiety advice
21:40 - When healing actually makes sense in therapy
26:30 - Why being "already healed" might be the answer
29:00 - The never-ending healing journey problem
33:00 - Self-development vs. living your life
The hosts suggest that many people struggling with anxiety may already be "healed" - they're simply learning to navigate life without anxiety being center stage. Rather than endless healing pursuits, recovery often involves doing less inner work and more actual living. The episode challenges popular wellness narratives while maintaining hope for genuine recovery through practical, reality-based approaches.
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