Unfortunately during my 8 years of dating I have been confronted with 4 different uncomfortable encounters, one was with Maya from Ep. 2 - The Hope and one was with James from Ep. 13 - I’ve Changed My Mind. On both of those occasions I was put in uncomfortable and non consensual situations. In this episode I look at 2 stories that draw attention to the safety of women and the instinctual decisions we need to make in the moment when it comes to heterosexual dating. At the time I was fresh into dating after a long term relationship with a very good man, so perhaps I was quite naive, always thinking I could bring out the best in someone and maybe a little bit vulnerable seeking and enjoying attention and quickly getting consumed in the moment. Fortunately neither of these stories were damaging, but I hope by sharing my experiences it will help others to recognise signs of discomfort, follow their instincts, create boundaries and have the confidence to leave difficult situations. Tinder launched in 2012, and in the summer of 2013 I remember a friend telling me about this new dating app, and how brilliant it was. I was still a bit of a snob about online dating but eventually I caved and soon got sucked into the world of modern dating. Follow: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/ Key Characters: Stephen Minder - My first Tinder experience Sam - A guy I dated Beth - My best mate Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years Heather, Jessica, Adina, Stephanie and Melissa - London friends Frank - A Tinder match Isaac - A London friend and the first man I fancied after ending an 11 year relationship Locations: Broadway Market https://broadwaymarket.co.uk/ The Spurstowe Arms http://www.thespurstowearms.com/ The Cock https://www.facebook.com/CockTavernBrewPub/ Oslo http://oslohackney.com/ The Haggerston https://www.facebook.com/thehaggerston/ Pizza East http://www.pizzaeast.com/ Entertainment References: Tinder https://tinder.com Peaky Blinders https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peaky_Blinders_(TV_series) Candy Crush https://www.king.com/game/candycrush Ariel Too Big To Fail https://open.spotify.com/album/5vWp4E5iRzx8VEWmESUvl0 Refuge Charity: Refuge https://www.refuge.org.uk/ Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.