In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, Marina shares the most transformative relationship experience of her life—the one that finally broke the cycle of being the fixer in love. With raw honesty, she opens up about falling for someone with immense potential, a soulful connection, and an incredibly difficult past. But more importantly, she shares how she finally walked away—not just physically, but emotionally and somatically—from the belief that her love could save someone who didn’t want to be saved.
This is not just a story of heartbreak; it’s a story of nervous system healing, boundary reclamation, and rewriting the blueprint of what love feels like. If you've ever stayed in a relationship hoping the other person would change, if you've ever been hooked by potential instead of reality, or if you’ve lost yourself trying to fix someone else—this episode will speak to the deepest parts of you.
Marina invites you into her process of grieving not only a romantic relationship but also her relationship with her father, and how all of it ties back to her childhood pattern of trying to earn love through healing others. She reflects on her own addiction—not to substances, but to hope, to the fixer fantasy, and to the deep desire for emotional safety. Through this heartbreak, she found a sense of freedom she never knew was possible.
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Top Episode Quotes:
"I was addicted—not to him—but to his recovery. That was my drug."
"I used to fall in love with who people could be. Now I fall in love with how they treat me."
"Healing isn’t just knowing better. It’s feeling differently. It's your nervous system learning what safety actually is."
"The fixer in me always saw souls. But now, I’m learning to love what’s real."
"I grieved the love story that never happened—because potential isn’t love, and fantasy isn’t reality."
trauma healing, somatic healing, relationship patterns, fixer mentality, codependency, emotional healing, nervous system regulation, heartbreak recovery, boundaries, breaking trauma bonds, Marina Yanay-Triner, Deep Within podcast