In this insightful episode of Destress The Nest, host Hannah Morgan welcomes Paige Connell, a working mother of four and viral content creator known for her candid, relatable take on the mental load of motherhood. Together, they dive deep into what mental load really means—how it manifests in families, why it so often falls on women, and how couples can begin the work of redistributing it more equitably. Paige shares personal stories, practical tools, and honest advice that every overwhelmed parent needs to hear.
Key Takeaways
- Mental load is the invisible, nonstop cognitive and emotional labor of running a household, often falling disproportionately on women.
- There's a big difference between doing the task and anticipating, coordinating, and managing the task.
- Many couples talk past each other about mental load because they don’t have shared language or clear goals.
- Making the invisible work visible—through lists, tools like the Fair Play method, or regular check-ins—is the first step to change.
- Equity doesn’t always mean doing 50/50. Sometimes the goal is acknowledgment, time equity, or simply the ability to be present after a long day.
- These dynamics extend beyond parenting and romantic relationships—they show up in workplaces, friendships, and family systems too.
Quotes
- “Mental load is a running to-do list in your brain that never gets shorter—it only gets longer.”
- “I realized I was already doing the work of a house manager—I just wasn’t getting paid for it.”
- “Often, men think they’re sharing the load equally, but there’s a disconnect between doing and planning.”
- “If you’re always the one buying the Mother’s Day gift and collecting the Venmos—that’s mental load, too.”
- “You can’t fix what you can’t see—make the invisible visible.”
- “Before you redistribute the work, get on the same page about what success looks like.”
Resources Mentioned
- Reminders app, shared spreadsheets, and simple tools to make invisible labor visible
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This episode of De-Stress the Nest is sponsored by Heron House Management.
