Dating in your 20s can feel like one long experiment in emotional exposure. In this episode, Amelia and Lilly dive into the vulnerable (and sometimes deeply uncomfortable) act of putting yourself out there—whether that’s through dating apps, awkward singles events, or blind dates arranged by your parents (yes, really).

We talk about:

• The shame spiral of wearing a name tag at a singles event
• When a backhanded compliment sticks with you for way too long
• Why your nervous system might be louder than your gut sometimes
• How dating apps mess with our need to be both authentic and “appealing”
• And what it means to show up as yourself without a safety net

We’re not promising dating hacks, but we are breaking down the psychology behind what makes it all feel so high-stakes—and how to stay connected to yourself through the mess of it.

Therapy-Informed Takeaways:

• Vulnerability is necessary for connection—but it can feel like danger if rejection has been part of your story.
• Singles events can be surprisingly helpful for practicing presence in low-stakes environments.
• Dating apps ask us to curate and perform. Real connection asks for something entirely different.
• Rejection—especially ghosting—activates the same pain centers as physical injury. You’re not overreacting.
• Your body tells you a lot: tension, fatigue, or even a clenched jaw are signals worth listening to.
• Building self-trust means getting good at hearing your “no” and honoring your “yes.”

Related Episodes:

• Dating in Your 20s - Self-Growth Through Dating Reflection
• Dating in Your 20s - Attachment Styles with Hilary Rosenberg

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