Since we were kids, we’ve been taught that we have to win—especially when it comes to the big competitions. Being a winner isn’t just about trophies or gold medals; it’s often seen as a ticket to a better future. Good grades, awards, leadership roles—they’re all supposed to prove that you’re special, capable, and worthy of success. Whether it’s applying to top universities or getting a prestigious job, the message is clear: winning matters.

But as we grow older, the pressure only gets worse. The stakes get higher. If you want a better life, a better job, a higher position, you’re told that you need to outshine everyone else. And there are only so many spots. That dream lifestyle—the one we all see on social media or in movies—looks so good, but so many people are chasing it and only a few ever “make it.” So we start running, pushing ourselves to be faster, smarter, more successful. And in a way, it’s understandable. We’re wired to want more, to improve, to be “the best.” But no matter how hard we try, there’s always only one winner. And most of us aren’t going to be that person.