Ever find yourself reacting before you even realise what you’re reacting to?

In this episode, I unpack a moment where I defaulted back into an old emotional thinking pattern taking things personally, called personalisation. It’s a cognitive distortion that creates reactions like snapping when I didn’t need to, and realising too late that it wasn’t about my wife… it was about me.

I talk about how these loops form, why they hit hardest at home, and how even after years of therapy and CBT, the old stuff can sneak back in when we’re tired, overwhelmed, or stretched too thin.

This is for any dad of a child of disability, partner, or human who’s ever thought: “I should’ve known better.”

You’re not alone. You’re just in the loop. Let’s find our way out, together.