If your “accountability” strategy is thinly veiled public shaming, congratulations—you’re not building culture, you’re building silence. In this episode, I break down how to call people on their bullshit without being a dick about it. We dig into why shame backfires, what accountability actually is, and how to hold a line with clarity, curiosity, and respect. Fewer hot seats. More alignment. Better results.

You’ll hear about:

• Why shame triggers hiding, defensiveness, and retaliation (aka: zero learning)
• Accountability as a feedback loop, not a punishment ritual
• Scripts and moves for realignment: clarity → curiosity → next step
• Dignity over dominance: holding standards and the human

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome
01:37 The Problem with Shame in Accountability
07:00 Understanding True Accountability
12:24 Holding Standards with Respect
17:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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