On today’s episode of Creating Real Marriage that Last, Darrel and I talk about how to gain clarity as a leader and determine how to focus your time and effort. When you’re a young leader, you think your job is to make everybody happy. So, you say “yes” to everything, but this ends up hurting you, your family, and even the people you serve. As you get older, you realize you’re not going to live forever. There are literally a handful of things that truly matter. Everything else is a distraction. So, it’s important to spend some time getting to know who God uniquely created you to be. Sometimes the most freeing thing you can say is, “I’m not any good at this.” That allows someone else who has that skill or that gift to step up and serve. It’s about building a team of people who can accomplish the mission together, rather than one person trying to do it all.