Aleeza Ben Shalom, a matchmaker and relationship coach, shares insights on moving from matchmaking to finding clarity in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of getting real, getting married, and staying married. Aleeza discusses the initial signs and feelings that indicate potential in a relationship, highlighting the need to look beyond immediate chemistry. She suggests focusing on shared values, aligned personalities, and the ability to handle each other's fears and quirks. Aleeza also advises setting a timeline for making a commitment and emphasizes the significance of small gestures and qualities in a partner. In this conversation, Aleeza Ben Shalom discusses the challenges of making decisions about relationships and finding a soulmate. She emphasizes the importance of soulmate clarity, which involves understanding one's values, needs, and goals, and comparing them to those of the person one is dating. Aleeza also highlights the time pressure many people feel when it comes to finding a partner and starting a family. She provides insights into deal breakers in relationships and advises accepting a partner as they are, without expecting them to change. Aleeza shares tips for maintaining a strong bond in a relationship, including playfulness, communication, and creating special moments together. She also talks about the balance between her public persona and her personal life, and the importance of prioritizing quality time with her husband.

Keywords

matchmaking, finding clarity, relationship, marriage, shared values, aligned personalities, fears, quirks, commitment, small gestures, relationship decisions, soulmate clarity, time pressure, deal breakers, accepting a partner, maintaining a strong bond, playfulness, communication, balance

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Aleeza Ben Shalom

01:01 Moving from matchmaking to finding clarity

01:32 Initial signs and feelings when meeting someone

03:27 Signs that indicate a potential lifelong relationship

04:39 The danger of trying to change someone

05:09 The importance of early judgments and snap decisions

06:11 The warning sign of immediate chemistry

08:44 The importance of taking time to make a decision

11:25 The different phases of a relationship

13:13 The timeline for making a decision

15:03 The scarcity of finding a compatible partner

16:23 The importance of valuing and appreciating your partner

23:44 The importance of small gems in a relationship

25:10 Creating diamonds in a relationship under pressure

27:31 Common doubts and cracks in relationships

28:58 Feeling Pressure to Make a Decision

30:35 Soulmate Clarity

32:43 The Grass is Always Greener

34:38 Deal Breakers

38:11 The Good and the Other

41:49 Black Flags and Red Flags

44:11 Keeping the Bond Strong

48:17 Balancing Fame and Relationship

52:31 What's Next for Aleeza