In this episode of Couples C.H.A.A.T the Alston’s chaat about individual and shared growth and development withing a relationship and how you seemly can’t have one without the other. In life the only thing constant is change, and if you must change let the change be some form of growth. Now it’s not enough to only grow individually…for any long-standing relationship to work everyone within the partnership must also grow together. While listing to this episode be ready to ask yourself “am I growing into the best version of myself?” “Am I helping my partner grow into the best version of themselves?”. “Am I even growing at all?”. Where do you and your partner see yourselves in 1,3, even 5 years? Let’s C.H.A.A.T about it!
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In this episode of Couple C.H.A.A.T the Alston’s chaat about social media and the role it plays in relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’re an influencer or someone who post once or twice a year social media in relationships can be tricky. In this episode you’ll her about topics like navigating DM’s, fake accounts, sharing passwords, blocking followers and so much more. If you've ever had to have a conversation with your partner about social media or if you think you may need to but aren’t sure how to start the conversation this episode is for you. Now open your favorite social media app, press play and let’s C.H.A.A.T!
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In this episode the Alston’s chat about what it really means to be “Equally Yoked” too often people miss out on a great chance for love & happiness in a relationship because they don’t feel like they have much in common with the person they are interested in or dating. Similarities and commonalities do not a yoke make! In this episode the conversation goes deep into what truly makes two people aligned and what it looks like to share a life, values, beliefs, dreams, desires, problems, and stresses with another individual! Weather you’ve heard the coined phrase “equally yoked” in a religious environment or in general conversation the meaning remains fast and true….now what is that meaning exactly? Take a listen to his dynamic episode and lets C.H.A.A.T about it!
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In this episode of Couples C.H.A.A.T. the Alston’s chaat about how even though your heart may be in the right place taking the approach of “Mr./ Mrs. Fix it” in your relationship normally is not the best approach. It’s nearly impossible to fix an issue that you don’t truly understand, and when your partner is having a bad day or is experiencing negative feelings, I know the first thing you’d want to do as a loving partner is to make them feel better or in other words “Fix it” for them. However, there are some problems that can only be fixed by the person who holds the issue. Instead of making their problem your and taking the approach of Mr. / Mrs. Fix it instead try asking your partner if or how you could support them and be there for them even if they don’t know what they need in the moment. It is not your duty to “Fix” your partner but you can support them while they work to “Fix” themselves. Let’s chaat about it!
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In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about how loving someone doesn’t always mean that you like them. It is normal and healthy in a relationship to at times not like your partner. Maybe they did or said something that rubbed you the wrong way or your just fed up with life lifen’ and may be very much overstimulated but at the end of it all you just can’t stand even the sight of your partner yet alone the sound of their voice. Have you ever experienced this? Well, we have and we’re here to chaat about it. You may love your partner but that doesn’t mean that you always have to like them. Let’s C.H.A.A.T about it.
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In this episode of Couples C.H.A.A.T the Alston’s CHAAT about doing the hard thing and addressing the elephant in the room. We all know the saying goes “ignorance is bliss” however we also know that there is nothing blissful about continually staring a problem in its face and pretending it’s not staring right back at you. Instead of bliss you’re more likely to be met with frustration, irritation anger, and a whole lot of other negative emotions you can surlily do without. Come CHAAT with us about facing the parts of you that are uncomfortable with confrontation and end living behind the facade that “Ignorance is bliss”!
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In this episode the Alston's C.H.A.A.T about body counts. Should the answer to the question "How many people have you slept with?" determin how you treat someone or more importatnly if you chose to move forward in a relationship with them? We'll chaat about the double standered that comes with this age old question that views men and women diffrently when it comes to body count. What's your body count, and should men and women be treated diffrently in this regard...or is a hoe a hoe no matter what sex they are? Come C.H.A.A.T with us and talk about it!
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In this episode the Alston's C.H.A.A.T about being in a relationship while having best friends of the opposite sex. Many may not see this as an issue, however, has it been discussed? Does it exist? If so, come chaat with us to hear our thoughts on it and how to handle it if you find yourself having a spouse with an opposite sex best friend.
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Welcome Back to Couples C.H.A.A.T Darris and JoAnne Alston Jr. are excited to reconnect with you, our valued listener with season two. In this episode the Alston's CHAAT about losing your personal identity while in a relationship. You will also hear more about the 4 primary attachment styles and how they can affect how you treat and handle yourself while in a relationship. Have you ever lost sight of yourself while in a relationship? Let's CHAAT about it!
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PSA: This episode is Rated R. In this episode the Alston’s chaat about sexual fantasies, if there is really such a thing as “bad sex”, sexual desires, pleasures, and much more. All these topics around sex can be very awkward to talk about however, knowing what you want and need in the bedroom and being able to effectively communicate it can be fulfilling and rewarding for both you and your partner. Come C.H.A.A.T with us in our final episode of season 1 on how we communicate our sexual desires and the importance and benefits of sharing in the giving, the taking, and the overall pleasure of passionate sex.
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In this episode the Alston's chaat about financial literacy in a relationship and the importance of being like-minded when it comes to all things relating to money. There’s no one stingier than a person with a coin lol. Those “$$ bills y’all” can have even those people full of love turn into people of hate and resentment. It is completely normal for couples to encounter issues around money no matter if you have too much or too little of it if you are not on the same page with your partner when it comes to money you are both heading upstream without a paddle. Come C.H.A.A.T with us about the different ways to jointly handle money in your relationship to reduce stress and increase financial security while ensuring all your needs are met!
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In this episode the Alston’s chaat about how trauma can affect your relationship. Past trauma, hurt, guilt, or abuse can have a major effect on how you engage with your spouse due to not fully processing the trauma to begin with. Unprocessed trauma can affect not only one’s brain but how one may react to certain situations. It refers itself to PTSD (Post Traumatic Disorder) where your body is in fight, flight or freeze mode majority of the time which sends one off the rails when reacting to the environment or situation. Come chaat with us to hear how unprocessed trauma can and will affect a relationship if left untreated.
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In this episode the Alston’s chaat about the multifaceted nature of love! We all know Love is patient and Love is kind…however, it can be and is so much more than just those things. Just as a chameleons’ instinct is to change and adapt to its environment, love also changes and adapts to those who embody it, who experience it, and those who long for it. Love is surely not just black and white it is an array of beauty and color. Come Chaat with us about the world wind that is love, all that love is, and all that it can be.
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In this episode of the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T. about how spending quality alone can help you discover what it is that you value in any relationship to come. Being alone has its benefits, it gives you time to reflect on past relationships and gives you time to set clear values and boundaries about what you want in your next relationship, if that's what you desire. It also comes with challenges, wanting to be with someone and ultimately not being ready poses the risk of you rushing into a relationship too soon that you may not be fully prepared for! Come C.H.A.A.T. with us about how being alone is healthy and is a vital step to take in the discovery of what you truly want in and out of a successful relationship.
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In this episode of the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about how we navigated our way of being married at 23 years old, we were questioned by many as to why we were getting married so young, but if you ask us, it was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. Age has nothing to do with a successful marriage, passion, love, shared vision, and commitment speak to longevity. Come C.H.A.A.T. with us about our experience of being young and married.
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In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about how often in relationships, people tend to take on a lot of responsibility, we like to call this superhero syndrome. If you feel like the weight of the relationship is on your shoulders you may be suffering from superhero syndrome. No matter if it’s self-induced or forced upon you, left untreated can lead to high stress, lack of communication, and even worse burn out. Come C.H.A.A.T with us about how superhero syndrome can be your kryptonite.
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Description: In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about being able to trust your partner to represent you when you aren’t present. Would you feel comfortable with your partner speaking on your behalf? Sometimes we are scheduled to all sorts of events, from family gatherings, business engagements, even kids’ playdates, in which one of us can’t attend however, we know that if either one of us aren’t in the room that the other will be well represented. Come C.H.A.A.T with us as we discuss how even divided, we are united!
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In this episode the Alston’s CHAAT about a simple approach on how to navigate emotions while addressing conflict. In part three of the conflict series we will explore T.H.I.N.K, our interpretation on how to navigate the steps discussed in episode two of the conflict series "S.P.I.R.I.T". We will also discuss how we used all of these techniques to get through conflict in our marriage. We all understand the term think before you speak, but how many of us do it? Come C.H.A.A.T with us as we discuss how we do it!
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In this episode the Alston’s CHAAT about how to address conflict. By using the Acronym S.P.I.R.I.T couples can successfully navigate through situations causing conflict within their relationship while also realizing that the conflict is an attack to the spirit and not the person, the ego along with pride can make conflict turn for the worst. Come C.H.A.A.T with us!
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In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about the importance of conflict. Many people view conflict as a negative however there are multiple benefits to conflict in a relationship. Sounds crazy right…Yea we know!! Explore with us as we explain why the one thing couples do their best to avoid is the very thing they need to sustain consistent positive growth. Come C.H.A.A.T with us about how your relationship can Grow Through Conflict!
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