In this episode, Rabbi Eliyahu Farhi explores the deeper meaning behind our request for ahava, chen, chesed, and rachamim — love, favor, kindness, and mercy — in the Vi’hi Ratzon prayer. These aren’t just abstract blessings; they are divine tools through which Hashem molds how others feel about us.

When we ask Hashem for these qualities, we’re not just hoping to be liked — we’re asking Him to influence the hearts of those around us, to plant compassion, warmth, and goodwill in their eyes toward us. Every act of kindness we receive, every opportunity that opens, every person who shows us favor — it’s not random. It’s Hashem orchestrating our relationships, guiding interactions, and softening hearts.

This awareness brings emotional security and spiritual clarity. We stop obsessing over how to win people over and start focusing on our connection with Hashem — the true source of all favor. When we trust that He is the One turning hearts in our direction, we gain peace, confidence, and a deeper sense of purpose in our relationships.