Life is full of ups and downs, and it can be easy to let the bad things that are happening to you result in negative emotions that completely take over. Have you ever felt out of control with your anger or had very intrusive thoughts? Or you have been thinking about how you can better regulate your emotions? If so, this is the episode for you! Our guest today is Dr Cristian Conte, who will share with us some simple techniques behind anger management to help you calmly cope with the trials of everyday life, which can make a world of difference to your wellbeing.
Christian’s Biography:
Dr. Christian Conte is a world-renowned Level-V anger management expert, a licensed professional counsellor and author of a dozen books. From working with celebrities to hall of fame athletes, from elite military personnel to people on death row and everyone in between, Dr. Conte has spent over 25 years helping people deal with their anger. Although Dr. Conte specialises in working with some of the most dangerous individuals on the planet, his passion now is in training others in how to communicate effectively, regardless of the intensity of the situation. Helping you speak in ways that can overcome other people’s ego and defensiveness in order to be heard.
In this episode, we dive deep into answering the following thorny questions:
0:00 - Intro
2:10 - How did Christian get started?
4:00 - What is anger management?
5:00 - How do you know if you have a problem with anger?
11:10 - What are the different level of consciousness that we act from?
17:20 - Why having an expectation of how things “should be” is what will trigger our anger response. 18:20 - Bridging the gap between expectation and reality by using accurate language and compassion
22:15 - What is Yield Theory?
24:37 - Do rich and famous people have the same difficulties managing their anger?
26:55 - How to get people to apply knowledge into action when managing their anger.
32:45 - How do you deal with violent people or abusive relationships?
35:00 - How to communicate in a way that doesn’t trigger someone's anger and be heard.
41:35 - How can we best parent a child with anger issues?
47:30 - Why your physical state affects your mental state.
48:45 - The role of setting realistic expectations in anger management.
51:40 - How to maintain realistic expectations in the context of social media comparisons.
53:55 - Is it normal if someone is not expressing their emotions?
57:40 - What is Christian’s one wellbeing practice?
Learn more about Dr. Christian Conte:
https://www.drchristianconte.com/about/
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