Show Description: Amy and Angelyn challenge the popular "I get to" vs. "I have to" reframe, discussing why this mindset hack can sometimes feel inauthentic and even harmful. They explore how forced positivity can minimize real feelings and prevent us from honoring our true capacity.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why the "I get to" reframe can feel like toxic positivity in disguise
• How forced gratitude can minimize authentic experiences
• The connection between reframes and core values alignment
• The importance of validating difficult feelings
• Alternative reframes that honor authenticity
• The difference between genuine gratitude and forced positivity
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Notable Quotes: "It feels like toxic positivity, but packaged in a costume almost. Like it's not supposed to sound like toxic positivity, but it really feels like toxic positivity to me." - Angelyn

"I don't feel like I should have to feel like I get to do something when I'm feeling really overwhelmed maybe by something or feeling like it's really challenging." - Amy

"Self-compassion says, I'm not okay, you're not okay, and it's okay to not be okay." - Angelyn (quoting Kristin Neff)

Key Takeaways:

• Using the "I get to" reframe might prevent you from honoring your true capacity
• When activities align with your core values, you may need fewer forced reframes
• True self-compassion acknowledges difficult feelings rather than bypassing them
• Authentic gratitude practices are valuable, but shouldn't be used to dismiss challenges
• The most compassionate approach is often simply acknowledging where you are