A moment comes when the realization hits that this is what it is, yet we don’t want to deal with that reality. We’re feeling all these feelings that are uncomfortable; the pain, the grief, the loneliness. We sit with it all and then, at some point, we wonder “what do I do with this?” and “how do I find meaning?” You can understand the grief AND want to move on while carrying it. This isn’t about squashing the grief - that’s not possible. It’s about moving onward on a new path, creating a fulfilling life and honoring that grief.
This podcast delves into the often overlooked but deeply significant experience of living life as a woman who is childless not by choice. There are many ways to reach this point - being childless after infertility is only one road. Often circumstances other than unsuccessful fertility treatments bring us to the point of unwanted childlessness. Whatever your path has been though, your pain and all the other difficult emotions are valid. Now what do you do with it all? Your life doesn’t have to be defined by the pain of childlessness. You create your own narrative. Through candid discussions and personal stories, my podcast offers insights, support, and guidance for navigating this unique path in life and thriving.
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A moment comes when the realization hits that this is what it is, yet we don’t want to deal with that reality. We’re feeling all these feelings that are uncomfortable; the pain, the grief, the loneliness. We sit with it all and then, at some point, we wonder “what do I do with this?” and “how do I find meaning?” You can understand the grief AND want to move on while carrying it. This isn’t about squashing the grief - that’s not possible. It’s about moving onward on a new path, creating a fulfilling life and honoring that grief.
This podcast delves into the often overlooked but deeply significant experience of living life as a woman who is childless not by choice. There are many ways to reach this point - being childless after infertility is only one road. Often circumstances other than unsuccessful fertility treatments bring us to the point of unwanted childlessness. Whatever your path has been though, your pain and all the other difficult emotions are valid. Now what do you do with it all? Your life doesn’t have to be defined by the pain of childlessness. You create your own narrative. Through candid discussions and personal stories, my podcast offers insights, support, and guidance for navigating this unique path in life and thriving.
When Childlessness Fuels Self-Blame About Everything
Childless And Moving Onward
18 minutes
2 weeks ago
When Childlessness Fuels Self-Blame About Everything
Have you ever found yourself taking the blame for things that were never really in your control?
In this episode of Childless and Moving Onward, host Gail Miller opens up about the quiet but powerful weight of self-blame that so many childless women carry - not just about infertility, but across every corner of life.
Through honest reflection and heartfelt conversation, Gail explores how societal silence around childlessness often fuels this blame, making it easy to believe that you’re the problem when you never were.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How self-blame can quietly shape more than just your thoughts on childlessness
Why society’s silence can make grief feel like a personal fault
How self-blame creates the illusion of control in the face of loss
Why your worth extends far beyond any perceived failure
If you’ve ever felt like not having children makes you less worthy, this episode will remind you that your value has never depended on motherhood - and that kindness toward yourself is where healing truly begins.
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Stay connected with us:Dr. Gail Miller: https://pathonward.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/childlesspathonward/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pathonwardlifecoaching Full transcript and more: https://pathonward.com/80-when-childlessness-fuels-self-blame-about-everything/
Childless And Moving Onward
A moment comes when the realization hits that this is what it is, yet we don’t want to deal with that reality. We’re feeling all these feelings that are uncomfortable; the pain, the grief, the loneliness. We sit with it all and then, at some point, we wonder “what do I do with this?” and “how do I find meaning?” You can understand the grief AND want to move on while carrying it. This isn’t about squashing the grief - that’s not possible. It’s about moving onward on a new path, creating a fulfilling life and honoring that grief.
This podcast delves into the often overlooked but deeply significant experience of living life as a woman who is childless not by choice. There are many ways to reach this point - being childless after infertility is only one road. Often circumstances other than unsuccessful fertility treatments bring us to the point of unwanted childlessness. Whatever your path has been though, your pain and all the other difficult emotions are valid. Now what do you do with it all? Your life doesn’t have to be defined by the pain of childlessness. You create your own narrative. Through candid discussions and personal stories, my podcast offers insights, support, and guidance for navigating this unique path in life and thriving.
