Is being unmarried and without kids a sign of failure in your 30s?In this week’s episode, we sit with Soni, a third culture kid who grew up in Gran Canaria, moved to the UK for university and work, and at 31 made the decision to move to Australia by herself. She joins us to unpack the unspoken hierarchy of ‘adulting’ - study, work, marriage, kids, and what it means to rewrite the bullsh** rules she had placed on herself.We begin with discussing growing up Sindhi in Spain, and the cultural and social conditioning that shaped how Soni measured success. From there, we trace her feelings around being the only unmarried one in her group of friends who are all now having kids, unpacking her discomfort with her life through therapy, and her eventual decision to move across the world solo, the discomfort of starting over, and how she’s learning to trust her own pace.In the second half, we talk about shedding societal timelines, the grief and beauty of life transitions, and what it means to own your story, even when it’s messy or uncertain. Through it all, Soni reminds us that there’s power in doing life differently, especially when it’s scary.(0:00) Introduction(03:19) 'I’ve always been a creative at heart'(04:19) Themes in Soni’s book ‘Your Mind Matters’(04:59) Was the corporate job stifling her creative potential?(05:41) On starting her own dance academy in Gran Canaria(09:15) The Sindhi community don’t often open up about their challenges(09:30) The mental turning point(12:20) Soni’s therapy journey(23:30) Being married with kids by 30 is a bullsh** rule(26:50) The ‘hierarchy of successful adulting’(39:25) The move to Sydney(50:43) Takeaways from her book ‘Your Mind Matters’(54:42) What does Soni have strong game in?Check out Soni’s new book ‘Your Mind Matters’ where she talks about it all and more - https://www.waterstones.com/book/your-mind-matters/soni-sawnani//9798301476259To be the first to get updates on new episodes, please do give us a subscribe or follow!