In part 2 of the series given by J. Pittman McGehee, D.D. in April of 2004, Pittman elaborates on the attachments and defenses we all express. He gives detailed examples of suppression, repression and denial along with idealization or illusion (which is also a form of denial) we use to hang on to the romantic delusion of the magic other. To have these defense mechanisms is a natural part of our ego development and encourages us not to shame ourselves for being human. He says as long as we are going two steps forward and one backward, we are still headed toward in the right direction to individuation.