When I was a child, I believed in Happy Ever Afters.  

I believed God was going to bring me a perfect man, and I was going to fall perfectly in love, and we were going to have a perfect wedding, and live happily every after, with our couple of perfect kids.

And then I went to college, a GREAT place for that perfect man to find me (especially in the olden days - before all the dating apps) and I learned this valuable lesson - 

He couldn't find me if I was hiding all the time.

Sometimes, we're taught that we as Christians should ALWAYS be waiting - that FAITH requires waiting for God to take action on our behalf.

And SOMETIMES, that is true.  But JUST sometimes.

Sometimes, FAITH looks like, well, looking!  And it's in the looking, that we learn more about ourselves.  And that is GROWTH, and that's a good thing!

So, here's some unconventional advice from a Christian life coach who is very happily married (on most days, lol! - because NOBODY AND NO RELATIONSHIP IS ALWAYS PERFECTLY PERFECT!!!)