Today is the Black_Girls_With_Boundaries Podcasts 1 year anniversary and also the 2 year anniversary of my sobriety from alcohol. My discussion about boundaries started a few years ago as I navigated my survival from a toxic marriage, divorce, and the continuous battle of coparenting with a two time diagnosed narcissist. Through my healing process I discovered how my own childhood traumas played a huge part in attracting such toxic and manipulative behaviors from others into my life.  Narcissists are notoriously known for overstepping boundaries. They seek empaths who have little or no boundaries at all. That was me...I had none, didn't know anything about them, didn't know how to set them in order to even stand on them. It took almost 25 years for me to figure out that this was my issue. Once I figured it out, I slowly allowed that mask that I was wearing so tightly to slide off. My soul would no longer allow me to cover up all that had gone on. I was now able to start doing the hard work on me and for me. Most importantly, I was able to finally start talking about it. 20+ years of toxicity wore heavy on my mental, emotional, and physical health. There were moments where I made unhealthy choices in the attempt to run from all of this craziness and the pain of trying to be super mom and a super wife through all of it...there is nothing super in that at all. Today in this episode I open up a bit more on why  Black_Girls_With_Boundaries is so passionate for me. It was my only way out.