Only God can bring the reconciliation between a husband and a wife when their hard hearts are humbled by the Holy Spirit and they are willing to hear the truth and repent. Surrender your marriage to the Lord who is the designer of marriage. He alone knows how to do the impossible to repair and heal a deep intimate wound, or to choose to rescue one spouse out of the injustice He is witness to. Refuse to allow the enemy to divide you. Instead, allow the Holy Spirit to teach you how to have a submissive childlike heart unto each other and unto the Lord. Give up self-importance and allowing the distractions of the world's riches to seduce your heart from the Lord. Your relationship with Him must come first. All else will fall into place.