Summary

In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I explore the concept of people pleasing, its roots, and practical strategies to overcome it. I discuss the systemic influences that contribute to people pleasing behaviours, including family dynamics and societal expectations. The episode emphasises the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and prioritising personal needs to foster authenticity and emotional well-being. I encourage you to embrace discomfort as part of the growth process and to seek support through coaching and self-reflection.

Takeaways

People pleasing often stems from a desire for acceptance and belonging.

Awareness is the first step in addressing people pleasing behaviors.

Family dynamics play a significant role in shaping people pleasing tendencies.

Setting boundaries is essential for personal well-being.

Disappointing others can be a necessary part of self-care.

Understanding personal values can help in making decisions that align with one's true self.

Practicing saying 'no' is crucial for breaking the cycle of people pleasing.

It's important to recognize the emotional cost of people pleasing.

Change is a journey that requires patience and self-compassion.

Systemic coaching can provide valuable insights and support in overcoming people pleasing.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing

00:29 Understanding the Roots of People Pleasing

01:27 Supportive Resources and Personal Connection

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02:09 Understanding People Pleasing

05:20 The Roots of People Pleasing

08:08 Family Dynamics and Roles

10:56 Fear of Exclusion and Belonging

14:03 Rules of Belonging

16:59 Conflict Avoidance and Perfectionism

20:18 Practical Tools to Stop People Pleasing

29:05 The Power of Saying No

32:25 Disappointing Others: A Necessary Step

36:23 Letting Go of the 'Good One' Identity

41:44 Identifying and Upholding Personal Values

43:39 Setting Boundaries and Enforcing Them

48:20 Embracing Resistance and Personal Growth

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