You can now watch this episode on YouTube! Host Birna Gustafsson invites Sexologist Natassia Miller on for a conversation about monogamy, desire, and how to measure when your sex life is really getting better. She reveals how to set SMART goals for sex (yes, really) and what to do when you feel more like roommates than lovers. Plus, how straight couples can benefit from ditching heteronormative scripts.  This is your permission slip to rethink what satisfying sex can actually look like and how to start having it (or, having it again!).  Check out more by my guest, Natassia Miller, Sexologist on her site, wonderlust.co or on Instagram at natassiamiller  Wonderlust Mindful Intimacy Card Deck: https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck Natassia Miller’s Desire Masterclass: https://www.wonderlust.co/desire-masterclass UNBOUND: My favorite toys, use code BBIRNA at UnboundBabes.com/birna-gustafsson for 10% off your purchase WISP: Pharmacy and Wellness, use code BBIRNA at hellowisp.com for 15% off your first purchase Note: For extended show notes, BeyondtheBedroom.org is changing to BeyondwithBirna.com For more from Birna, check out her socials, IG, TT, and Threads @ bbirna or reach out via birna.net

Now also on YouTube! Sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale joins Birna to talk about how mindfulness and somatic tools can shift how we experience intimacy. We dig into how to build a personal pleasure vocabulary, move through shame, and what it feels like to be multi-orgasmic. Plus, a listener question on mindset blocks in her first queer relationship. Want more? A bonus full-length conversation is available at beyondwithbirna.com Find Catherine at catherinedrysdale.comInstagram & TikTok: @iamcatherinedrysdale Use Code BBIRNA for  20% off your first purchase for all 3 tiers of Pleasure Rx https://www.catherinedrysdale.com/a/2148091506/BEACG3gf Follow Birna on Instagram, TikTok, and Threads: @bbirnaWatch the full video on YouTube: youtube.com/@beyondthebedroomVisit the show hub: beyondthebedroom.org UNBOUND: My favorite toys, use code BBIRNA at UnboundBabes.com/birna-gustafsson for 10% off your purchase   WISP: Pharmacy and Wellness, use code BBIRNA at hellowisp.com for 15% off your first purchase   "Vibing Over Venus" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

I break down real questions students ask me as a university-level sex educator, including: STI scares, awkard roommate encounters, drunk hookups, and how to survive being slut shamed.  This episode reveals what’s really happening on campus and why it matters for everyone, not just students. Most people never get comprehensive sex ed, so I’ve also compiled my top tips for healthy, safer intimacy for young adults.   UNBOUND: My favorite toys, use code BBIRNA at UnboundBabes.com/birna-gustafsson for 10% your purchase WISP: Pharmacy and Wellness, use code BBIRNA at hellowisp.com for 15% off your first purchaseBonus content, including full-length extra episodes, available for members at beyondwithbirna.com

NEW: Watch on YouTube! You’ve heard it a HUNDRED TIMES- just communicate, go explore! What does that mean? Where do you even start?  In this episode of Beyond the Bedroom with Birna, I break down how to actually improve your sex life long-term in three solid steps. I guide you through where to begin exploring and how to tell your partner(s) what you really, really want.    This episode will help you get out of that rut and kickstart your journey from good to great in bed (and beyond!).  Don’t miss out! Bonus content at beyondwithbirna.com  Affiliates:  UNBOUND: My favorite toys, use code BBIRNA at UnboundBabes.com/birna-gustafsson for 10% your purchase WISP: Pharmacy and Wellness, use code BBIRNA at hellowisp.com for 15% off your first purchase Find me on Instagram and Threads @beyondbedroompodcastFull archive and articles at beyondthebedroom.org BONUS content at beyondwithbirna.com

NEW: WATCH ON YOUTUBE @ BEYONDBEDROOMPODCAST! Did you just say "Mommy?" Mistress Lauren joins Beyond the Bedroom for a candid chat about what domming actually is (and isn’t). We answer listener questions about how to enjoy telling people what to do and receiving the care you deserve. Plus, domming from the bottom, why so many people insist they’re not REALLY into it (but they are). Plus, of course, some tales from the dungeon.  Don’t miss out on a whole BONUS HOUR with Lauren, just for members at beyondwithbirna.com  Mistress Lauren can be found on TikTok and X @ cherrybb333  For longer show notes and more info head to beyondthebedroom.org  

A Valentine's Day special! Birna plays the couple's question game "Pillow Talk," now available for free on beyondthebedroom.com/games  Check out all show notes, discount codes, and transcripts at beyondthebedroom.org Try Wisp for Birth Control, OMG Cream, Period Relief, and more

Some politicians want you to believe that sex is determined at conception—but that’s not how biology works. In this mini episode, I break down the science of gestational development, debunk the dangerous myth of "sex at conception," and explain how this misinformation fuels anti-trans and anti-choice policies. I also unpack Trump’s 2025 executive orders targeting reproductive rights, gender-affirming care, and public health. What do these laws mean for trans and nonbinary people? How do they impact abortion access? And how can we fight back? Amidst the frustration, I'm also bringing a message of hope and solidarity because science, community, and advocacy are on our side. Check my discount codes, ask a question, or reach out on beyondthebedroom.org

To cheer us all up, Birna reacts to some fun and quirky questions from r/sex on Reddit. Topics include cockwarming, post-orgy guilt, and a drunk best friend begging to see a couple's sex tape.  For show notes, articles, and transcripts check out beyondthebedroom.org  Use code BBIRNA for a discount on all my favorite things at unboundbabes.com  

Birna reviews the film "Babygirl" and discusses the kinky themes and layered characters. Plus, listeners's questions about communication and whether our childhoods can shape what we're into.  Check out all affiliate links and show notes on beyondthebedroom.org

Birna reviews intimate resolutions submitted by listeners. Topics include better solo play, sober sex, honest communication, and much more. Plus, she shares her own resolutions for the year, including how to slow down her sex life.  Check out beyondthebedroom.org for show notes, discount codes, and how to submit anonymous questions or voicemails for the podcast. To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on any purchase. My favorites are Ollie, Puff, and Flick. Treat yourself in the new year and support Beyond the Bedroom!

This special bonus episode is full of holiday-themed listener questions, plus Birna's sex predictions for the new year! Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question and your new year's resolution: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

What should you do if you got the HPV vaccine but then had an abnormal pap? How do you gift lingerie without sending the wrong message? In this episode, Birna breaks down new HPV data, lists the do’s and don’ts of gifting sexy items, &  helps a listener talk to his girlfriend about her less-than-stimulating oral skills. Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question or confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

What counts as unprotected if we both have vaginas? How do I handle a harness? Is scissoring real?? This week is all about vulva-to-vulva action, but you don't need to be a participant to enjoy this episode! Whether you're a seasoned pro, a curious newbie, or a total outsider with questions, I'll answer your questions all about V2V, lesbian, sapphic sex.  Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Masks, tentacles, and roleplay, oh my!  This mini-episode also answers listener questions re: sex magic, monster toys, and fantasizing about something against your values (spooky!!)   To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Is it just me, or are there ads for erectile dysfunction meds everywhere lately? I investigate what this cultural shift means for male sexuality in the US. Plus, I answer listener questions about female Viagra, performance anxiety, and gimmicky ED supplements.    To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick or any other purchase! Check out other links and submit a questions or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Challengers hit theaters and suddenly everyone wants two boyfriends and tennis lessons, and I don't blame them. I give my two cents on the film (minimal spoilers—don't worry!), discuss whether Gen Z really hates sex scenes, and answer questions about DP, sexting, and "overperforming" in bed.  Recorded at Studio Friends in Tribeca, NYC  To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on any purchase. Ollie and Puff are my top picks from Unbound!  Check out other links, send me a question, and submit a confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

So, you've tried everything, but you're still not "getting there." In this episode, you'll learn about the possible causes of female anorgasmia and how to make adjustments to facilitate pleasure.  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand for bonus content  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favorite toys Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and grooming products Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna  Check out more (chat with me on Sunroom!) or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna

I discuss the history of the prosthetic scrotum I saw at the spy museum, which sent me down a rabbit hole of sexual relations in intel operations.  Plus: evolutionary theories on curved penises, why caffeine makes some people super horny, and my biggest dating "icks"  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favorite sex toys! Ollie + Bender are amazing.  Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and grooming products Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna  Check out more (chat with me on Sunroom!) or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna

Another cozy Q&A episode answering anonymous questions about penetration, flogging, negotiating something sexy, and the relationship between vaping and ED. A mixed bag of topics with plenty of personal details and hot takes dotted throughout.  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on some of the best sex toys on the market  Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and grooming products Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna  Check out more or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna  

You asked, I answered. Except this time, I surveyed my friends (of the real-life and internet variety) to help me with some topics. Here's what my circle is chatting about this week: What are some modern-day don'ts when it comes to flirting? How can I tell if I want an open relationship or just enjoy the thrill of cheating? Why does prostate pleasure still weird us out? & more on condoms, lesbian sex, and daily life.  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount! You know my favorite, Ollie, is an Unbound wand! Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for a discount on some amaaaazing grooming and body products! I love their trimmer.  Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna  Check out more or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna