Healing Toxic Shame: The Real Reason You Feel Not Enough

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BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown | Trauma-informed Psychodynamic Coaches

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Tired of reacting instead of responding with your partner or kids? Becoming Untriggered is the podcast for parents and partners ready to break generational trauma, heal their past, and build conscious relationships. Every month, we share practical tools, honest conversations, and strategies to help you become the calm, connected, and conscious version of yourself. Hosted by trauma-informed coaches Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown, who bring over 17 years of lived experience and decades supporting both moms and dads, this show explores how childhood wounds show up in adult life.

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Healing Toxic Shame: The Real Reason You Feel Not Enough

BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

27 minutes 43 seconds

2 weeks ago

Healing Toxic Shame: The Real Reason You Feel Not Enough

No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today.

You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are.

00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot

01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity

02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From

10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction

13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise

16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion

22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting

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– Resources:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session